I have found that a lot of single people are still single not because they haven’t found “the right one.” The right ones are all over the place. They are single because of the stories they tell themselves about relationships. Their stories tend to center on why things can’t work rather than why they can. The trick to going from a single person to a couple isn’t about finding the right one at all. It’s about reminding yourself that the stories you tell yourself aren’t real.
To become a couple you have to risk feeling fear and disappointment. You have to risk the hurt or getting your heart broken. You have already tried to navigate around those things by treating dating like you’re interviewing someone for a job, haven’t you? Strangely enough even when the person passed the interview you still found reasons that they weren’t right for you. Dating, relationships, marriage is all emotionally risky. Get used to it. Do not fear it. Instead, remember that risk is the most exciting part of any new venture. Only when you transcend your fears, your outdated beliefs and your stories do you get to experience something new and amazing.
Expert Matchmaker 19 year
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