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Make good choices for your love life

🙆🏽‍♀️How big of an age range do you think is reasonable when dating in today’s world? I talk to many singles who are open to dating someone 10 years younger but can’t fathom dating someone 10 years older. Are we becoming ageist? Or is this the new normal?

>Is it ok to called out on your age choices?

>Do you think by mid life most people know what works for them and what doesn’t?

I know I know, we all have our “ideal preferences”… but is that laundry list so long, so detailed that it’s keeping you out of the dating game?

It is my belief that the way we perceive ourselves and those we ‘think’ we should be with have a significant impact on the life we manifest.

When we wait for the perfect partner we may find ourselves making any number of excuses to put our lives on hold in the meantime.

Well, I’m here to encourage you to commit yourself to looking at dating as an opportunity, one that may lead to new energy in your life.

🤦🏽‍♀️ Release preconceived notion‘s

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🙅🏽‍♀️Leave old routines in the past

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💁🏽‍♀️ View each day as an opportunity

Are you open to possibilities? Join our free confidential database and “Let’s see who’s looking for you!”

Jessie

855-664-4588

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5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

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I thought if only I could meet a wonderful person who had their act together then all would fall into place with my life. 😳

The problem with this kind of fantasy is that a healthy happy person wants a healthy happy partner too. This kind of healthy person does not want to engage with someone who is struggling with not liking themselves. Someone who is unhappy with their weight, unhappy with their life and who is also hiding out from their life goals and dreams – can’t be ready for Real love.

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1. Do you obsess about your body, the way you look AND do you put others down – People who may look good or who look healthier than you do.

When you’re obsessed with your look and unhappy with your overall self – this problem will show through NO matter how hard you try to cover it up with a fake smile.

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2. You consistently doubt yourself. AND you doubt others around you.

Self-doubt is simply not sexy – neither is doubting others.

Self-confidence VERY SEXY! Cheering on others – also VERY SEXY!

If you’re second-guessing yourself and others constantly, then your self-doubt will shine through. You might succeed in hiding it for a short time but eventually, it will come out as UNATTRACTIVE BEHAVIOR.

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3. You constantly seek approval. You have to be the center of attention where every you go.

When you seek approval from anyone except from yourself, you’re basically asking others to tell you that YOU deserve to be here with them.

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4. You’re hiding out from others and yourself.

How many people do you know that have dreams but they are not going for them. One of my biggest pet peeves- Big TALKERS 😩…You’re playing it safe and holding back. Live Your Best Life Ever!🙌

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5. You blame others (Stop blaming others!) for your problems.

Taking Personal responsibility is VERY SEXY! Taking full personal responsibility for your health and happiness will attract a stellar mate who is happy and healthy THEMSELVES. 🙏

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🗣JOIN OUR FREE DATABASE-MEET SOMEONE HEALTHY AND HAPPY.

*FILL OUT A CONFIDENTIAL PROFILE NOW. WE ARE LOOKING FOR “GOOD” MATCHES FOR OUR CURRENT “AMAZING” CLIENTS – FILL OUT A PROFILE, LET’S SEE WHO’S LOOKING FOR YOU.

Love, Jessie

jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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We Are Recruiting For Love…

We are recruiting for our current Wonderful clients. 

👉🏽We are looking for men ages 35-65
👉🏽We are looking for ladies 25-50
👉🏽It’s Free To JOIN OUR CONFIDENTIAL DATE-A-BASE (Fill out a profile)

 

LIST OF CURRENT CLIENTS WE ARE SEEKING MATCHES FOR:

👉🏽58 yr old Man – Business Owner – non-religious, active, girl next door type

👉🏽50 yr old Man – Business Investor – non-religious, classy, scholar, engaging, International 

👉🏽45 yr old Man – Sales Director – Christian, tall, a little nerdy and funny

👉🏽42 yr old Man – Business Owner – adventure seeker, giving, curious with a strong learning curve

👉🏽63 yr old Man – Newly retired – generous, great cook, loves shopping and wants a true mate

👉🏽52 yr old Man – Lives in Hawaii – College professor, tall, happy, creative and looking for love 

👉🏽29 yr old Woman – Software, sweet, loving, healthy and interested in marriage and kids

👉🏽40 yr old Woman – Real Estate Investor, funny, exciting, great mom and has a heart of gold

👉🏽36 yr old Woman – Lawyer, nice to everyone, smile lights up room, loves sports and family

👉🏽35 yr old Woman – Independent contractor/Real Estate Investor, loves to smile, loves to do flips, loves life

👉🏽58 yr old Woman – Management – Christian, happy, healthy, engaging, smart, open to nuances, laughs easy

👉🏽54 yr old Woman – Business Owner – Christian, lights up a room, giving, charitable, funny, over the top nice

“LET US SEE WHO’S LOOKING FOR YOU”

LOVE, JESSIE 

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Be Good To Yourself First.

 

I told him, “Offer me something I cannot find in myself.” #lovequotes

Nowadays, so much of social influences lead us or pressure us to be obsessed with the materialism of relationships.
We fuel the misconceptions of relationships and it is so crazy how at times we don’t even realize we are doing this.

The quote above opened discouraging thoughts in my mind about settling and compromising. It reminded me, that I am significant. I am one of a kind. And that I am alive. 💪🏽Be good to yourself first.

***It’s your job to find people who focus on finding love through positive possibilities. A matchmaker is a “Positive Outlet” for finding love and learning how to be “Your Personal Best” in the dating world (you have to be ready for positive changes).

Jessie 855-664-4588 

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Your Love Life Is Not Always Like A Maze

 

 

I think, based on optimism, that life is a journey with U-turns curves and pot holes rather than a just a maze of lines. A maze seems trite or a little simple to me. At least for my life.

It never ceases to amaze me how some people stroll through life, always the same mood, always happy on the outside anyway and seemingly settled (so they think). I’ve mentioned this here because there are some strategies I’ve used to jump some of life’s tough hurdles. Hurdles that may “Hold Me Back”.

Rid your life of negative destructive or uncomfortable people. They are a good portion of the population. Believe it!😳
Expect 50% to be eliminated in your mind. Means bumping into them at shops, talk for a maximum of 30 seconds to be polite and – go! You eliminate any chance of getting upset. That includes your social media friends too.

🚘 If you can afford to move. Or opt to work from home…less stress. No parking metres, calm lifestyle, friendly people in smaller towns. And you are out of the rat race.

Release your Superwoman or Superman. Stop expecting too much of yourself. Organize your life so you don’t get caught up in things that should have been done. Rushing to do them causes stress. Delegate…..if you have to or plan better.

🙏🏼Cherish what you have – not what you do not have. Life is full of beautiful imperfections…channel your emotions to others. Channel what you would have channelled to loved ones – had you had the chance. 💫

❤️ Find “Real Love” with “Real people who want love, the ones open to possibilities” and connect with your Spiritual peace from within, whatever that is for you. 😬

Call Jessie for Coaching Tips – “Get the Partner you’re looking for” 

Jessie 855-664-4588

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8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

👉🏽 While you think you’re acing it on a 1st date, you sometimes end up making really careless dating mistakes.
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*Being Too Choosy And Picky

Are you waiting for someone better to come along? Well, the trick is to live for the moment and go with that gut feeling.
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*Being The Indifferent Fool

If you’re trying to play hard to get, maybe, just maybe it’s getting old? Old Tricks are not always GOOD TRICKS 👎🏽
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*Not Texting Back

It’s a stupid game and no one is interested in waiting to hear back from you. If you really want her SHOW HER 📲Text or Call 👍🏽
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*Don’t Start Sexting Straight Away and stop asking for more pics – MEET her already

If it’s a fresh new beginning, which starts with a ‘hey, what’s up’, don’t, I repeat, don’t send her d*ick pictures straight away, just because you can let jack out of the box, anytime you like. Hold it in and make conversation like a decent man please.
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*Romance Is NOT For Wimps

No harm in showing your sweeter side once in a while with sweet and lovable romantic gestures. You don’t become any less of a man for being sweet, selfless and caring!
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*Expecting Or Asking For Sex On The First Date

No one owes you a free f*ck just because you bought them dinner. So please be a gentleman and stop thinking about humping the daylights out of her, on your first date.
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*X Doesn’t Mark The Spot

Why would you want to bring out the X-files? She’s not interested in who you dated or who you banged 4 months ago. 😳
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👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽 Oh yeah one more thing! 👈🏽👈🏽👈🏽
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*Make up your mind, IN ADVANCE to have fun 🙌🏽 LAUGHTER IS SEXY!

Love, Jessie 

 

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Get noticed! Learn to approach someone in the real world.

Get noticed, learn to approach someone out and about in the Real World.

It’s terrifying and it can be thrilling all at once, if only he/she knew you were interested.

Have you ever been out around town minding your own business – and Boom! You see him or her and your heart stops. As your eyes follow them around, you keep thinking,”How can I make him/her notice me? How can I stand out in public?”.

Here are a few tips to get his/her attention:

  • Stand-out, be known for something. Do you have a favorite color? Take for instance Lisa-Raye McCoy (instagram.com/thereallraye1/) is known for only wearing the color white everything. She’s branding herself and making herself stand out. Or maybe you have a favorite hat or sports team memorabilia you can sport around. I happen to love the Minnesota Vikings, I am known for sporting a Vikings hat or Vikings T-shirt. And let me tell you ladies…this has become a great talking point whenever I encounter men out and about. Men always look at my hat or shirt and smile, maybe even comment on my Vikings season. I also comment whenever I see men wearing their favorite sporting memorabilia with “nice team or good luck with your season or nice game”. It always opens up engaging, competitive sort of conversations that lead to fun talk.
  • Know your motives. Knowing your motivation helps you keep going and makes it easy for others to relate to you. Why do you do you think you would be a good match for them? What do you like about the person you want to approach; eyes, hair, skin, smile, laugh, brain, physique, presence or maybe everything. Surprise them with a compliment, “Love your eyes”. You will definitely stand out, it’s rare for someone to compliment someone they don’t know personally.
  • Be prepared. When the opportunity opens up, be the person who is ready and able to be part of the moment. A good way to prepare is by having something clever to say when you have the chance to say something – “I love your hat”. “You have a great smile, you should use it more often” (make eye contact with him/her and smile). “Good seeing you here again” (be sure to make eye contact with him/her and smile).                                                                                                               “I’ve been wanting to say Hello to you, it feels good we finally did” (use this only if you are daring enough).
  • Love yourself confidently – what message are you giving off. Make sure you know how you show up. How do you act in public? Do you know how the opposite sex perceives you (get honest feedback from friends, relatives, ex’s or better yet from a matchmaker). Everything you say or do is a reflection of who you are – it’s called character. Try to be in high spirits on a more consistent basis. Smile when you talk to people – even when on the phone. I promise it will make your conversations feel better and sound better.
  • BE BRAVE-INTRODUCE YOURSELF. Keep it simple. If you frequent the place often you can say, “I see you around a lot, I don’t think we’ve actually met. I’m _______”. If you are really brave then go ahead and slightly brush up against him/her and you can say, “Oh, Excuse you…kidding! Excuse me, I’m ______ how you are? Sorry didn’t get your name? Nice to meet you, I hope to run into you again – literally. Have a good one” (don’t forget to smile and flirt a little with your eyes as you slowly walk away). AND if you run into them again, this gives you permission to say something like, “You again, nice to see you” (with an excited smile on your face). Or You could just go for it, what do you have to lose…Say something like, “For some reason I keep looking your direction, I find you very interesting. Do we know each other? I’m _______ by the way”.

Put yourself in the drivers seat of your dating life, it’s ok to “go for it” and get noticed while out in the Real world.

For more dating advice or confidence building with dating – you can reach me at jessie@therealmathcmaker.com or give me a call at 855-664-4588. Let’s talk about your dating or coaching plan, meet Mr or Miss Right this year.

Jessie Kay

 

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5 Things You Can Do To Increase Online Dating Responses

 

Get better online dating responses

Dating can be very frustrating…and getting positive responses from online dating, can be tortuous. If you are single and sincerely looking for love, I encourage you to be on at least one dating site. Leave No stone unturned.

Here are 5 helpful tips to increase your online dating responses: 

  • Timing is everything 

Check the dating pool temperature, know when the person you are looking for is online most. According to Zoosk the time that Men are most found online checking their messages is between 7am-10am. And Zoosk found almost the polar opposite for women. Women are found to be more active, checking their messages between the hours of 8pm-11pm. So send the guy or the gal you have been eyeing a “Good morning early bird” or “Good evening night owl” message between those times. Or engage with them through instant message by saying something like, “Good morning, I wanted to check-in with you early to say Hello, that way you start your day off with a smile” (replace the Good morning with Good evening for messages to women – also change “that way you end your night with a smile”). Take the initiative if you are serious about finding love this year.

  • Post more activity pictures 

According to Match.com people engage more with pictures that show you being active, alive and adventurous. So whether it is hiking, surfing, walking outdoors, paddle boarding, skiing or sharing the infamous yoga pose – post some really great active shots where we can clearly see you are having fun (be sure they are not blurry pictures and that we can see your face).

  • Master the selfie

Master the art of taking a selfie and for pete’s sake keep your friends out of the picture. Who needs the competition or the confusion of whose profile is this anyway. Beside make your meet and greet about the two of you not your family and friends (at least not yet).

  • Positive words, will lead to positive results 

The words can’t, won’t and picky are used way to often in the dating world. I can not tell you how many profiles I have read that start off with negative information. Instead of the word can’t or won’t use the words – I’ll try or I’m open. Instead of telling everyone you meet you’re picky- use your dating time wisely, tell people what you want rather than what you don’t want. Ask for a dating referral if they themselves are not right for you. 

  • Have fun with rewriting your profile

It’s important that you put some effort into your profile but don’t make it to clinical or resemble a resume format. Guys this means you too, women don’t like blank profiles. Remember women fall in love with words or with actual conversation (the old saying women fall in love through their ears is a true statement).

Enjoy telling people about what they are in for when they meet you. For example these phrases, lead to more views and response.

  1. I love a good happy hour. Do you have a favorite place?
  2. I am always up for a good cocktail and better apps (appetizers).
  3. I love a good lunch adventure, let’s find a new spot to meet.
  4. I am really into creating eventful fun…let’s make some fun memories together.

For more dating advice or coaching efforts please contact me personally, I would love to help you spice up your dating life with better results.

Jessie Kay 

855-664-4588 

or email me personally at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Who’s your Valentine?

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, the usual dinner-and box of chocolate and or flowers will certainly get the job done this year. But this is your chance to prove your love and show your Valentine just how special they are. In other words, Valentine’s Day calls for something truly elevated, step up your game! 

To help you out, we rounded up some inventive, unforgettable, heart-throbbing date ideas in the Los Angeles area (could apply in other area’s, google idea for similar places to go).

Escape Room 

Looking for a fun and unique activity for your Valentine’s day date? Escape Room LA is a one-of-a-kind interactive adventure that everyone will love! There’s an Escape Room in LA, clues are tricky, but no special skills or knowledge is required. It’s a Fun Date Night! I’ve done it. 

Shopping spree anyone?   

Find fun, unique stores, stores that may tell a story —shop locally, I love this fun store on Melrose Ave www.newprofanity.com – funny place to take a date – deep discussions required. Keep strolling together down Melrose Ave or a nice walk through Laguna Beach local shops, if you dare hit the malls. Decide on a set amount of money. You each have 30 minutes to buy something for each other. Whomever picks the best gift wins. 

Dance to jazz like it’s the Roaring Twenties 

Hit up a local hot Jazz club, make a ’20s-themed evening out of it, time for fun dress up. Gentleman get the chance to bust out your three-piece suits and swanky hats. Ladies get to break out their glitter flapper dresses, make a night of it. Order old fashion drinks and cuddle up to a great night of music and fun. www.catalinajazzclub.com

Make your own art and sip 

 www.paintandsipstudiola.com Here you bring your own wine—or beverage of choice—and make your most valiant effort at painting a predetermined piece. Though every piece of art is ostensibly based off the same initial artwork, the results are generally wildly different, and quite entertaining.This a great opportunity for you to chat, laugh and get creative with your Valentine’s Day Date.

Dinner at the movies 

All around the country, you’ll find more and more movie theaters (like IPIC Theater) that offer the whole package: Drinks, dinner, and, of course, a movie. Talk about getting comfy :-). www.ipictheaters.com/#/home/

Still looking for love? Please JOIN OUR EXCLUSIVE SINGLES NETWORK. Let us see who’s looking for you. www.therealmatchmaker.com/contact-us/

 

Love, Jessie 

855-664-4588 

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LA California Matchmakers

What is Love Search Networking?

Let us approach singles for you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

We are positioning ourselves as “Love Recruiters”. We actually enjoy doing the love search for you.

Look, we know being single in these times is incredibly hard. Swiping left and right, dismissing each other is becoming a way of life with dating. We want to relieve you of the swiping, we are looking to celebrate you! It’s our goal to separate you from the online dating apps and highlight you as someone – “I can’t believe is single”

According to Revise Sociology, most of us work 50% of our waking hours. With that being said, we encourage you to spend the remaining 50% of your waking hours on getting to know someone special rather than searching high and low. Take action! While you are at work or living your active life, we are behind the scenes developing relationships with people who can help in your love search.

We work on your behalf finding dating and love opportunities – we will ask everyone for dating referrals.

Timing is everything and if you don’t have the time let us do the date scouting work for you.

Join our Exclusive Singles Network, let us do a quick search for you.

Love, Jessie

855-664-4588

 

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