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Are You Undateable?

Are You Undateable?

You know the song, “Sea of love where everyone would like to drown”!    Are you still standing on the shore alone?  Have you thought about why?  Maybe it’s time to go over some of the reasons why you might be undateable.

Being honest with yourself is important.  Just because you’ve been on a date or two, but were rejected for the next or follow-up date, there is a reason.  You may be undateable.  Going over what you do and do not do on your dates gives you an outline of the possibilities of why you are undateable.  Are you a lady or a gentleman?  Do you say things that are a turn off?  Do you dress appropriately?  Are you a slob or look like a street walker?   What you wear, what you say and what you do make you dateable or undateable.

If you are talking about a bad break up on your date, your ex, how he/she was in bed,   it’s a turn off!  You are undateable!  Do you practice the golden rule, even in bed – do unto others as you’d have them do unto you?  Do you have a great kiss, as a kiss without a French kiss, is not a kiss.  Where do you draw the line?

Do you have passion or are you just in it for the sex?   Are you desperate?  Using that excuse, “I have to get up early for a meeting tomorrow”, or “I have a headache, I’m really tired”.  It’s worn out, it’s cliché, and that next date – well, you know the answer.

Breaking bad habits may be difficult, but extremely important if you are looking for a relationship, that starts with being dateable.   Contact us at www.therealmatchmaker.com for a personal consultation or for meet your matchmaker day, and we will make sure you are on your way for that date you’ve always been looking for, and “drowning in the sea of love”.

Always in love with love! 

Jessie 

Expert Matchmaker for 18 years 

855-664-4588

jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Creative Ideas For Meeting Single Men & Women

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THE REAL MATCHMAKER – Creative Ideas for meeting single men and women

Whew!  Being single is like a part-time job. If you have been looking to find love “in all the right places”, but it hasn’t happened, here are a few fun and creative ideas for meeting men and women.

Starting with a few small steps goes a long way.  The key to meeting someone naturally is always, always, look good and don’t forget your best accessory “Your smile.”  There is competition, and you don’t want to be bypassed because of sweat pants, flip flops and unwashed hair!  A good place to meet men is at the market/grocery store, the smaller one’s — they like to get in and get out.  Probably later in the day is better, as they usually want to just get it done.  The hardware store is also a place that you can innocently ask for that little bit of advice or a tip, from that guy in the aisle that caught your eye.  

Have you forgotten about the library or bookstore?  This is a fun and creative idea for meeting men.   These men are usually the intelligent type and it’s a nice, quiet environment.  If a charity is interesting to you, it is one of the best places to meet men.   Men doing charity work is a good indicator that they are the emotionally available type.  Why not do a little charity work yourself?  It could be fun!   Have you thought of going to a tech store, such as Apple?   Just look inside.  They are full of men, and what an easy place to start up a conversation – there’s so many “how to questions”, that could help spark a conversation.  

While eating alone in a restaurant isn’t really fun, it can be creative if you have a strategy in place.  It just may be the place you meet that special man.  You took the risk and it worked!  Every man likes his steak every once in a while.  Go to a steak restaurant, and sit at a table near the bar, not the bar.  There you will have the prime position to check out all the men eating and drinking at the bar.  Once you have eye contact, it will be easy for the next step.  Men are more likely to approach you when you are alone and you don’t want to be with a friend that could be your competition!

OK ladies, if you have tried and tried, but still feel that you need that extra, personal touch, www.therealmatchmaker.com is your home.  Why wait, when you could be in love by the end of the year and who knows what next Valentine’s will be like?

For all the men out there, where have you been looking?  If you have a dog, don’t just walk down the street, go to a dog park.  What a fun and creative way to meet women and have your dog do a little socializing as well.  There are so many women there.  Starting up a conversation couldn’t be easier — what a beautiful dog, how old is your dog?   There is no better way to relax and get pampered than getting a manicure and pedicure (without the polish guys).   It’s no longer a “woman thing”.  You may have worked in the garden or changed the oil in your car and need to clean up.   Go for it, pamper yourself.  You’ll be in a roomful of women.  It’s a fun and creative idea for meeting women.  Your friends may tease you, but if you end up with a prize, they may try it themselves, and not admit to it.

Maybe you need to stay in shape but sweating at the gym is too much.  Try a fun and creative idea to meet women at dance classes.  You’ll be swinging to the music, shedding a few pounds, and up close and personal with your lady partners.   After that, if you enjoy wine, go to a wine tasting, it’s a little classier than the bar, and the women have a more sophisticated taste.  

 

Have you experimented with a few ways to meet people?  Have you run out of ideas?  If you ever need advice or that extra push, www.therealmatchmaker.com is the place to find great ideas, great service, and the love you’ve always been looking for.

Always in love with love! 

Jessie 

Expert Matchmaker for 18 years 

LA/OC locations 

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Share the Love on Valentines Day!

Whether you are single or taken, Valentine’s Day can stir up a slew of emotions that far from warm and fuzzy. Valentine’s Day can be a reminder that your current partner isn’t meeting your expectations and if you are single, seeing all the schmoopy Facebook comments from attached friends and family is enough to send you into an emotional tail-spin. The good news is, Valentines day isn’t just for lovers. Here at The Real Matchmaker, we like to think that Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love in and of itself! Here are some sure-fire ways to make your heart melt on Valentine’s Day, regardless if you have a sweetheart.

Happy Valentines Day

Play Cupid-Chances are you know a few other folks who are feeling a bit blue today. Surprise your lonely friends with a simple bouquet of flowers, or a small box of chocolates and write them a little love note. After all, part of the fun on Valentine’s Day is surprising the ones you love with a token of your affection!

Create a Tradition-When I lived in my home town, I would take my grandmother to her favorite Tea Room for lunch on Valentine’s Day. We would get all gussied up in our Valentine’s Day attire and talk about love. I will always cherish these memories and they are certainly some of the best Valentine’s Days I have ever had. Other ideas are taking Valentines cookies to your niece/nephew/god child’s class room, or volunteering at a community center.

Write Yourself a Love Letter- When you’re single it is so important to love yourself! Get some fancy stationary paper and write yourself a valentine note listing all the things you love about yourself and all the things you love about your life with YOU! You can seal it up and save it to read next year on Valentine’s Day.

Pamper Yourself-Go for a spa treatment, get your hair done, enjoy a mani/pedi. Not only will you feel awesome, your confidence will get a boost by sprucing up your look a bit. If you’re really feeling racy, go buy yourself a new piece of lingerie. Just because you don’t have someone to flaunt it for doesn’t mean you can’t still feel sexy!

HAVE FUN! Rally up your single pals and go out for a night on the town. Have dinner and drinks at a fancy restaurant or do a love-themed pot-luck. Make sure to tell each person why you love them!

We’re wishing all of you love bugs a Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Why Do Women See Men as Fixer-Uppers?

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Why Do Women See Men as Fixer-Uppers?

As an expert matchmaker, I really had to think long and hard about this question.

Are women all really looking for the perfect man? After all, we are ransacked daily with the likes of Hollyhunks like George Clooney, Brad Pitt and David Beckman.

Most men feel like they don’t have a chance.

Women are taught to look for a man with good character and determined work ethics.

It’s not so much about changing your chivalrous personality for us. It may be more about shaping you into the image of our ideal man.

The good news is most women have a habit of always seeing the good or the potential in men. We see ruff spots on the surface and we want to sand them off, or at least sand them down so the imperfections don’t show as much.

It’s always important for women and men to understand that compromising and being somewhat flexible in a relationship is key.

Men should take it as a compliment that women want to bring out the best version of them. That means she cares.

 “Regardless of the stage of your

relationship, always be open-minded.”

Check out the rest of my blog on Datingadvice.com. Click here to read more.

 

http://www.datingadvice.com/for-men/why-do-women-see-men-as-fixer-uppers

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GET IN THE GAME GUYS!

 

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Peyton Manning should be a role model for your social life.

How prepared are you to go out there and meet women on a daily basis?

How much work do you actually do before you go out on a Friday night, or do you just go out cold?

The guy who just goes out cold on a Friday night and the guy who didn’t flirt all week are usually the guys standing at the back of the bar, mentally masturbating about the hot women they’re seeing.

They’re trying to think of what to say. They’re waiting for the right minute to talk to somebody. Then they go home frustrated and annoyed at the end of the night without connecting with a single woman.

Men who go out every single day and flirt with women and talk to women are comfortable by the time Friday night rolls around.

They’ve already been speaking to women all week, so they have no problem walking over to any hot woman in the bar on a Friday night when game time comes.

“If you’re not doing the preparation, you’re going to be awful on game night.”

That’s what life’s about.

If you’re not doing the preparation during the week, you’re going to be awful on game night.

Think about Peyton Manning. He’s been playing in the NFL for 15 years or so. He practices every single week, even though he could probably just show up at this point in his career.

But he gets into the flow of the practice, and each week is a different practice session for a different team and a different game plan.

Why do you think it’s going to be different with you meeting women? Why do you think you can get away without putting in the work? Why do you think you can cheat the system of life?

You can’t!

Preparation is what life is all about. The more you prepare, the better chance of you succeeding come game time, yet so many of you don’t prepare. So many of you don’t do the small things, and so many of you blame others for not being successful.

It’s time to take action, and it’s time to take full responsibility for where your social life is heading! Great dating article from Datingadvice.com 

Bet on “YOURSELF” this year!

Jessie 

Expert Matchmaker for LA and OC 

855-664-4588 

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Find Love Before Valentine’s Day! ♥

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As Valentine’s Day approaches, many singles are reminded that another year has gone by and they have yet to find “The One”. Instead of getting down on yourself, use this upcoming holiday as a little extra push to reevaluate your approach to dating.

 

 

Dating Tips that work: 

Love yourself. Concentrate on things you enjoy, such as your career, friends, family and interests. When you appreciate the good things in your life and make yourself happy, people perceive you as a confident, healthy person that they would like to get know.

Be prepared. You never know when or where you’ll meet someone.Maybe running an errand or just hanging with friends? Make the extra effort to shower, wear nice clothes, freshen up, be a sweet talker and smile at everyone– you will be glad you did when you find yourself in conversation with an eligible cutie.

Mix things up a bit. Always going to the same coffee shops, restaurants, or bars? Taking the same route when running or walking your dog? Try something different and open up the opportunity to see some new faces. If you do meet someone of interest, flirt and show them your pearly whites! It’s fun, typically harmless and lets people know that you’re available and open to making new connections.

Have fun. Find and participate in clubs and group activities that you’re interested in and enjoy. This could include volunteering, cooking classes, sports teams, speed dating, mingling gatherings, hiking groups, wine tastings, whatever you like! This is a great way to meet someone special, because you already have a shared interest. Plus, you look great when you’re enjoying yourself!

Make a new friend. Although you may not be interested in this person romantically, they could easily be the connection between you and your future boyfriend/girlfriend. Think of all the couples you know that have met through a friend of a friend…they too started by making a friend first. Set a goal this month to make at least 5 new friends.

Finally, stop looking so hard! Go out with friends just to enjoy each others’ company, not to look for dates. The times when you’re not looking at all are when you are the most appealing, because you are free to be yourself without the pressure of trying to impress someone. This shows people that you have other things going on in your life besides trying to find a date, which is very attractive to both men and women.

 

Summary: Make yourself happy, look your best, switch up your routine, do group activities you enjoy, make a new friend, don’t try so hard and don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

Sharpen up your dating skills 

To do list: 

*Add “flirty” conversation to your dates. Example: “When was your 1st crush? Your 1st kiss”? “What is the most romantic thing that you have ever done”? “What is the riskiest thing you have ever done for love”? “What is your favorite part on your body”? “Is it hot in here (fan yourself and smile)”?

*Make sure to follow up on questions, once they are answered. Keep the conversation flowing by being curious and genuinely interested in your date.

*Learn to compliment the person in front of you. Don’t be afraid to push the envelope by saying, “I love your eyes, they could be your secret weapon”, “Your smile is beautiful, its a little infectious”, “I feel really good being here with you”. 

Love is in the air! 

Jessie

Expert Matchmaker for The Real Matchmaker LA and OC

855-664-4588

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Find Love Before Valentine’s Day! ♥

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As Valentine’s Day approaches, many singles are reminded that another year has gone by and they have yet to find “The One”. Instead of getting down on yourself, use this upcoming holiday as a little extra push to reevaluate your approach to dating.

 

 

Dating Tips that work: 

Love yourself. Concentrate on things you enjoy, such as your career, friends, family and interests. When you appreciate the good things in your life and make yourself happy, people perceive you as a confident, healthy person that they would like to get know.

Be prepared. You never know when or where you’ll meet someone.Maybe running an errand or just hanging with friends? Make the extra effort to shower, wear nice clothes, freshen up, be a sweet talker and smile at everyone– you will be glad you did when you find yourself in conversation with an eligible cutie.

Mix things up a bit. Always going to the same coffee shops, restaurants, or bars? Taking the same route when running or walking your dog? Try something different and open up the opportunity to see some new faces. If you do meet someone of interest, flirt and show them your pearly whites! It’s fun, typically harmless and lets people know that you’re available and open to making new connections.

Have fun. Find and participate in clubs and group activities that you’re interested in and enjoy. This could include volunteering, cooking classes, sports teams, speed dating, mingling gatherings, hiking groups, wine tastings, whatever you like! This is a great way to meet someone special, because you already have a shared interest. Plus, you look great when you’re enjoying yourself!

Make a new friend. Although you may not be interested in this person romantically, they could easily be the connection between you and your future boyfriend/girlfriend. Think of all the couples you know that have met through a friend of a friend…they too started by making a friend first. Set a goal this month to make at least 5 new friends.

Finally, stop looking so hard! Go out with friends just to enjoy each others’ company, not to look for dates. The times when you’re not looking at all are when you are the most appealing, because you are free to be yourself without the pressure of trying to impress someone. This shows people that you have other things going on in your life besides trying to find a date, which is very attractive to both men and women.

 

Summary: Make yourself happy, look your best, switch up your routine, do group activities you enjoy, make a new friend, don’t try so hard and don’t put so much pressure on yourself.

Sharpen up your dating skills 

To do list: 

*Add “flirty” conversation to your dates. Example: “When was your 1st crush? Your 1st kiss”? “What is the most romantic thing that you have ever done”? “What is the riskiest thing you have ever done for love”? “What is your favorite part on your body”? “Is it hot in here (fan yourself and smile)”?

*Make sure to follow up on questions, once they are answered. Keep the conversation flowing by being curious and genuinely interested in your date.

*Learn to compliment the person in front of you. Don’t be afraid to push the envelope by saying, “I love your eyes, they could be your secret weapon”, “Your smile is beautiful, its a little infectious”, “I feel really good being here with you”. 

Love is in the air! 

Jessie

Expert Matchmaker for The Real Matchmaker LA and OC

855-664-4588

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Finding Love on Christmas

Sometimes finding love and the right connection takes time. It stinks not knowing when love is going to walk through our door, but you have to have perseverance and keep confident that it WILL happen. As an Expert Matchmaker and Dating Coach I often have to remind my clients to smile at everyone, keep your enthusiasm and don’t compare your love life or your journey to others.  

Whether you’ve been “naughty or nice”, Christmas and New Year’s Eve seem to be the hardest holidays to get through when you’re single. Keep in mind that these holidays are only a few weeks out of the year, are highly commercialized, and put a lot of pressure on people. Keep things in perspective.

I always encourage my clients to make plans with or without a relationship, this will help to relieve a lot of the pressure. Join others and share in the festivities–I bet there are others that would want to share in the holiday spirit with you and you might get lucky! Try not to overdo it. You may end up creating too high of expectations or exerting too much pressure. We often can create an image of how we think things should be and become so immersed in it, we forget to enjoy and appreciate what’s in front of us. 

 Think of the holidays as a time to meet someone, rather than a time to be lonely so “hit the road Jack!”… Plan to attend holiday parties for singles, such as mixers, speed dating, ice skating, white elephant gift exchanges, grab someone special and give a kiss while standing under the mistletoe, the list goes on. ‘Tis the season for gifting, so whatever your relationship status, always remember to treat yourself to something nice. I always do! 

Merry Christmas and Blessing to all!

Jessie The Matchmaker ♥

Celebrate the New Year and Make New Connections!

NEW YEAR, MEET NEW PEOPLE
 
 
To Celebrate the New Year and New Connections, We’re Hosting The Following Events: (see below)
 
An Intimate Affair…

This will be a fun event to start the New Year off right! Meet 8-10 men and 8-10 women at the trendy, intimate Steingarten! All attendees will be HAND-SELECTED!
It will be a group of quality, attractive singles in your age range sharing conversation around the fire over appetizers.
The guys will rotate so that everyone gets to know each other…not your typical speed dating event, more organic and intimate.

Sunday, January 5, 2014 @ 2:00 PM-4:00 PM (Ages 50-65 Only)

5:00 PM-7:00 PM (Ages 34-48 Only)
Steingarten LA
10543 West Pico Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90064

Cost: $35
Appetizers are included in the price of your ticket.
Parking: $2 Parking Lot at the intersection of W. Pico Blvd and Prosser Ave (by the paint store)

Contact Jessie if you’d like to come to a more private, Intimate Affair…
Limited seating, must RSVP
jessie@therealmatchmaker.com
619 602 9758

 
 
2014 Singles Networking Party LA

 

It’s Hump Day! RMM is partnering up with Carson House for an amazing Singles Social Networking event to remember! This event is only $5 and offers business networking opportunities and single social connections all in one!  Early birds will have the chance to sample some of Carson House’s delicious appetizers as well.

Join us for a rewarding night where quality single professionals connect over music, drinks, appetizers, and stimulating conversation at the beautiful Carson House. All ages welcome. Don’t forget your business cards–for work AND dating!

Wednesday, January 15, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM

Carson House
8635 Wilshire Blvd
Beverly Hills, CA 90211

Cost: $5
This will be a packed event so MUST RSVP by contacting Jessie.
jessie@therealmatchmaker.com
619 602 9758

 
 
 
Attractive Singles Intimate Mixer for Ages 50-65

 

Meet 10-15 men and 10-15 women all in one night!
It will be a group of hand-selected, attractive singles in your age range mingling over appetizers and drinks.
There will be music, ice-breaker games, and more so that everyone gets to know everyone.

Sunday, January 19, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM
Mike’s Place
Woodland Hills, CA

Cost: $25
Appetizers and 2 drinks are included in the price of your ticket.

Contact Jessie if you want to come and start your New Year off right!
jessie@therealmatchmaker.com
619 602 9758

 
 
2014 Singles Networking Party OC

 

RMM is partnering up with Elephant Bar for an amazing Singles Social Networking event to remember! This is a free event and offers business networking opportunities and single social connections all in one! Plus it’s Happy Hour all night!

Join us for a rewarding night where quality single professionals connect over a fabulous Happy Hour Menu and stimulating conversation at the fun, vibrant Elephant Bar. All ages welcome. Don’t forget your business cards–for work AND dating!

Monday, January 20, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM

Elephant Bar
14346 Culver Drive
Irvine, CA 92604

This will be a packed event so MUST RSVP by contacting Jessie.
jessie@therealmatchmaker.com
619 602 9758

 
Stay Tuned….More Singles Events to Come!

Your 2014 Resolutions for Romance!

Blink your eyes and it will be here…2014 is going to be a great year for you and it’s time to start thinking of those New Years resolutions ! Our matchmakers have compiled a list of tried and true ways to find your path to a healthy and loving relationship, while having a lot of fun along the way! NYE

Ditch the zero to get with the hero. You’re on the dating merry-go-round, but things aren’t so merry….that just means you’re running in circles never getting to the next level with the person you’ve been dating! If you’ve hit a stalemate (no pun intended!) with someone that you know in your heart isn’t right for you, or have found yourself waiting until that “perfect match” is ready to commit to a relationship, it’s time to move on. If it’s meant to be, it will happen regardless if you make the choice to meet other people. It will be a welcome and fun distraction from the guilt and/or frustration of your current situation. You won’t know how good you can have it until you get out there and see for yourself!

You have to have a life worth sharing before you can share it with someone else If you feel like you need to improve your finances or body image in order to be more desirable to the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, start taking action. Taking baby steps toward your ideal lifestyle will keep you inspired and confident which are highly attractive qualities . Before you know it, you WILL begin attracting people who are more ideal for your long-term relations hip goals .

Like attracts like; are you looking for a rugged outdoorsman, yet the thought of camping makes you cringe? You find yourself drawn to a classy and worldly woman, but you feel most comfortable in shorts and a ball cap when you go to dinner? It’s time to get honest about how to attract your potential mate or reevaluate what it is about specific characteristics that you actually are attracted to. A carbon copy of you would make things less exciting, and it’s important that you will be able to integrate into each other’s lives based on your lifestyles and backgrounds.

Get out from behind your computer. Online dating de-humanizes your search. There is nothing more telling than live real-time communication to determine if someone is a good fit. It’s easy to lose site of what is really important in a relationship and that is the way you actually FEEL when you are with someone! Dating is not like channel flipping, so if you come across someone that you feel has your top three criteria regarding children, faith, income, etc.—reach out and ask for a concrete face-to-face meeting. People who have a positive mind set and are serious about getting in a relationship will be relieved to cut to the chase and meet up in person-in a public place, of course!

Hire a matchmaker! Take the guess work out of your dating life. When you are setup by The Real Matchmaker, it’s a easy and fun. No more scrolling through profiles, coordinating your schedules or picking out a local hotspot. We do all the work for you! You will receive invaluable insight about your behaviors and your matchmaker will share the perspective from your date. You always know where you stand with your matches through prompt follow up by your own personal matchmaker!

For more information contact Jessie in SoCal at 855-664-4588  or Anni in NorCal at 415-656-9494 

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