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Get noticed! Learn to approach someone in the real world.

Get noticed, learn to approach someone out and about in the Real World.

It’s terrifying and it can be thrilling all at once, if only he/she knew you were interested.

Have you ever been out around town minding your own business – and Boom! You see him or her and your heart stops. As your eyes follow them around, you keep thinking,”How can I make him/her notice me? How can I stand out in public?”.

Here are a few tips to get his/her attention:

  • Stand-out, be known for something. Do you have a favorite color? Take for instance Lisa-Raye McCoy (instagram.com/thereallraye1/) is known for only wearing the color white everything. She’s branding herself and making herself stand out. Or maybe you have a favorite hat or sports team memorabilia you can sport around. I happen to love the Minnesota Vikings, I am known for sporting a Vikings hat or Vikings T-shirt. And let me tell you ladies…this has become a great talking point whenever I encounter men out and about. Men always look at my hat or shirt and smile, maybe even comment on my Vikings season. I also comment whenever I see men wearing their favorite sporting memorabilia with “nice team or good luck with your season or nice game”. It always opens up engaging, competitive sort of conversations that lead to fun talk.
  • Know your motives. Knowing your motivation helps you keep going and makes it easy for others to relate to you. Why do you do you think you would be a good match for them? What do you like about the person you want to approach; eyes, hair, skin, smile, laugh, brain, physique, presence or maybe everything. Surprise them with a compliment, “Love your eyes”. You will definitely stand out, it’s rare for someone to compliment someone they don’t know personally.
  • Be prepared. When the opportunity opens up, be the person who is ready and able to be part of the moment. A good way to prepare is by having something clever to say when you have the chance to say something – “I love your hat”. “You have a great smile, you should use it more often” (make eye contact with him/her and smile). “Good seeing you here again” (be sure to make eye contact with him/her and smile).                                                                                                               “I’ve been wanting to say Hello to you, it feels good we finally did” (use this only if you are daring enough).
  • Love yourself confidently – what message are you giving off. Make sure you know how you show up. How do you act in public? Do you know how the opposite sex perceives you (get honest feedback from friends, relatives, ex’s or better yet from a matchmaker). Everything you say or do is a reflection of who you are – it’s called character. Try to be in high spirits on a more consistent basis. Smile when you talk to people – even when on the phone. I promise it will make your conversations feel better and sound better.
  • BE BRAVE-INTRODUCE YOURSELF. Keep it simple. If you frequent the place often you can say, “I see you around a lot, I don’t think we’ve actually met. I’m _______”. If you are really brave then go ahead and slightly brush up against him/her and you can say, “Oh, Excuse you…kidding! Excuse me, I’m ______ how you are? Sorry didn’t get your name? Nice to meet you, I hope to run into you again – literally. Have a good one” (don’t forget to smile and flirt a little with your eyes as you slowly walk away). AND if you run into them again, this gives you permission to say something like, “You again, nice to see you” (with an excited smile on your face). Or You could just go for it, what do you have to lose…Say something like, “For some reason I keep looking your direction, I find you very interesting. Do we know each other? I’m _______ by the way”.

Put yourself in the drivers seat of your dating life, it’s ok to “go for it” and get noticed while out in the Real world.

For more dating advice or confidence building with dating – you can reach me at jessie@therealmathcmaker.com or give me a call at 855-664-4588. Let’s talk about your dating or coaching plan, meet Mr or Miss Right this year.

Jessie Kay

 

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Who’s your Valentine?

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, the usual dinner-and box of chocolate and or flowers will certainly get the job done this year. But this is your chance to prove your love and show your Valentine just how special they are. In other words, Valentine’s Day calls for something truly elevated, step up your game! 

To help you out, we rounded up some inventive, unforgettable, heart-throbbing date ideas in the Los Angeles area (could apply in other area’s, google idea for similar places to go).

Escape Room 

Looking for a fun and unique activity for your Valentine’s day date? Escape Room LA is a one-of-a-kind interactive adventure that everyone will love! There’s an Escape Room in LA, clues are tricky, but no special skills or knowledge is required. It’s a Fun Date Night! I’ve done it. 

Shopping spree anyone?   

Find fun, unique stores, stores that may tell a story —shop locally, I love this fun store on Melrose Ave www.newprofanity.com – funny place to take a date – deep discussions required. Keep strolling together down Melrose Ave or a nice walk through Laguna Beach local shops, if you dare hit the malls. Decide on a set amount of money. You each have 30 minutes to buy something for each other. Whomever picks the best gift wins. 

Dance to jazz like it’s the Roaring Twenties 

Hit up a local hot Jazz club, make a ’20s-themed evening out of it, time for fun dress up. Gentleman get the chance to bust out your three-piece suits and swanky hats. Ladies get to break out their glitter flapper dresses, make a night of it. Order old fashion drinks and cuddle up to a great night of music and fun. www.catalinajazzclub.com

Make your own art and sip 

 www.paintandsipstudiola.com Here you bring your own wine—or beverage of choice—and make your most valiant effort at painting a predetermined piece. Though every piece of art is ostensibly based off the same initial artwork, the results are generally wildly different, and quite entertaining.This a great opportunity for you to chat, laugh and get creative with your Valentine’s Day Date.

Dinner at the movies 

All around the country, you’ll find more and more movie theaters (like IPIC Theater) that offer the whole package: Drinks, dinner, and, of course, a movie. Talk about getting comfy :-). www.ipictheaters.com/#/home/

Still looking for love? Please JOIN OUR EXCLUSIVE SINGLES NETWORK. Let us see who’s looking for you. www.therealmatchmaker.com/contact-us/

 

Love, Jessie 

855-664-4588 

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It’s her time to fall in Love!

 LA Matchmaking service 

REAL CLIENT LOOKING FOR “REAL LOVE”

  • She is described as: Happy, fun, loving, healthy, grateful, successful, vibrant
  • She lives by her “Golden Rules”: Be open-minded, tolerant, non-judgmental, charitable, patient
  • Best quality: Laughs easily
  • Bucket-list destinations: Nantucket, Hamptons, Nova Scotia, Paris, Greece, Austria, Switzerland
  • Last book She read: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
  • Go to Netflix’s: Game of Thrones, Homeland, Shameless, Damnation, Westworld
  • Favorite comedy of all time: There’s Something About Mary
  • Best advise: “Don’t take any wooden nickels”
  • Food indulgence: Fine chocolate ~ “so good”
  • Favorite cocktail: Lemon drop
  • Favorite meal: Steak dinner
  • Open to dating Men ages: 33-52
  • Relationship Goals: “I want to fall in love and have a family”
  • Qualities She is looking for in a Man: Loving, trustworthy, happy, successful, financially stable, clever, intelligent, thoughtful, sporty, good business sense, good listener and enthusiastic (hopefully about finding love).

Sounds like someone you would like to meet ~ “She” is looking for Serious Suitors Only

Inquire within at Jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

Your 2014 Resolutions for Romance!

Blink your eyes and it will be here…2014 is going to be a great year for you and it’s time to start thinking of those New Years resolutions ! Our matchmakers have compiled a list of tried and true ways to find your path to a healthy and loving relationship, while having a lot of fun along the way! NYE

Ditch the zero to get with the hero. You’re on the dating merry-go-round, but things aren’t so merry….that just means you’re running in circles never getting to the next level with the person you’ve been dating! If you’ve hit a stalemate (no pun intended!) with someone that you know in your heart isn’t right for you, or have found yourself waiting until that “perfect match” is ready to commit to a relationship, it’s time to move on. If it’s meant to be, it will happen regardless if you make the choice to meet other people. It will be a welcome and fun distraction from the guilt and/or frustration of your current situation. You won’t know how good you can have it until you get out there and see for yourself!

You have to have a life worth sharing before you can share it with someone else If you feel like you need to improve your finances or body image in order to be more desirable to the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, start taking action. Taking baby steps toward your ideal lifestyle will keep you inspired and confident which are highly attractive qualities . Before you know it, you WILL begin attracting people who are more ideal for your long-term relations hip goals .

Like attracts like; are you looking for a rugged outdoorsman, yet the thought of camping makes you cringe? You find yourself drawn to a classy and worldly woman, but you feel most comfortable in shorts and a ball cap when you go to dinner? It’s time to get honest about how to attract your potential mate or reevaluate what it is about specific characteristics that you actually are attracted to. A carbon copy of you would make things less exciting, and it’s important that you will be able to integrate into each other’s lives based on your lifestyles and backgrounds.

Get out from behind your computer. Online dating de-humanizes your search. There is nothing more telling than live real-time communication to determine if someone is a good fit. It’s easy to lose site of what is really important in a relationship and that is the way you actually FEEL when you are with someone! Dating is not like channel flipping, so if you come across someone that you feel has your top three criteria regarding children, faith, income, etc.—reach out and ask for a concrete face-to-face meeting. People who have a positive mind set and are serious about getting in a relationship will be relieved to cut to the chase and meet up in person-in a public place, of course!

Hire a matchmaker! Take the guess work out of your dating life. When you are setup by The Real Matchmaker, it’s a easy and fun. No more scrolling through profiles, coordinating your schedules or picking out a local hotspot. We do all the work for you! You will receive invaluable insight about your behaviors and your matchmaker will share the perspective from your date. You always know where you stand with your matches through prompt follow up by your own personal matchmaker!

For more information contact Jessie in SoCal at 855-664-4588  or Anni in NorCal at 415-656-9494 

PRESS RELEASE: The Real Matchmaker Helps California Singles Find a “Honey for the Holidays”

PRESS RELEASE: The Real Matchmaker Helps California Singles Find a “Honey for the Holidays”

The Real Matchmaker, a personalized dating service based in California, is dedicated to helping professionals find love with unique local singles’ events and handpicked pairings. This season, the experienced dating coaches in Los Angeles and San Francisco are educating clients on how to manage often tricky holiday relationships.

Offering dating tips for men and women alike, the love and image consultants understand that many people desire a “Honey for the Holidays.” Glamourized as one of the more romantic times of the year, the holiday season is full of opportunities to meet professional singles and explore potential connections. This year, The Real Matchmaker hopes to give all of their clients the chance to have that magical kiss under the mistletoe.

The Real Matchmaker guides singles on everything from tips for a great first date to creative date ideas that incorporate local holiday events. For an organic way of meeting new people, the dating coaches suggest paying attention during Christmas shopping. Look for other patrons with similar tastes and start a conversation, or ask an interesting individual for their advice on which gift to choose.

Holiday dating for professional singles can be complicated, however. The Real Matchmaker advises against bringing someone to family events until the relationship has had time to grow. Instead, go ice-skating together or take a Christmas lights tour.

No matter the season, California singles can always find support from The Real Matchmaker’s date coaches and personal image consultants. From individually selected, one-on-one dates and interest-based events for singles to online dating profile tips and exclusive singles’ forums, The Real Matchmaker helps clients find compatible, exciting, and attractive connections.

Learn more or join The Real Matchmaker’s network by contacting the personal dating coaches at 855-664-4LUV or through their online form. For upcoming events, such as speed dating in Los Angeles on Dec. 8 and 14, contact a member of The Real Matchmaker’s team: Los Angeles and Orange County professionals are encouraged to contact Jessie Kay at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com, while interested individuals in San Francisco can reach Anni Powers at anni@therealmatchmaker.com.

 

About The Real Matchmaker

The Real Matchmaker is a date scouting agency serving Los Angeles, Orange County, and San Francisco. Its dating coaching and image consultation services help single professionals meet interesting and compatible individuals through handpicked matches and local singles’ events. The dating coaches offer date tips for a wide range of situations and customize the experience to the clients’ needs.

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Jessie Kay

The Real Matchmaker

855-664-4588

www.therealmatchmaker.com

jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

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