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It’s her time to fall in Love!

 LA Matchmaking service 

REAL CLIENT LOOKING FOR “REAL LOVE”

  • She is described as: Happy, fun, loving, healthy, grateful, successful, vibrant
  • She lives by her “Golden Rules”: Be open-minded, tolerant, non-judgmental, charitable, patient
  • Best quality: Laughs easily
  • Bucket-list destinations: Nantucket, Hamptons, Nova Scotia, Paris, Greece, Austria, Switzerland
  • Last book She read: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
  • Go to Netflix’s: Game of Thrones, Homeland, Shameless, Damnation, Westworld
  • Favorite comedy of all time: There’s Something About Mary
  • Best advise: “Don’t take any wooden nickels”
  • Food indulgence: Fine chocolate ~ “so good”
  • Favorite cocktail: Lemon drop
  • Favorite meal: Steak dinner
  • Open to dating Men ages: 33-52
  • Relationship Goals: “I want to fall in love and have a family”
  • Qualities She is looking for in a Man: Loving, trustworthy, happy, successful, financially stable, clever, intelligent, thoughtful, sporty, good business sense, good listener and enthusiastic (hopefully about finding love).

Sounds like someone you would like to meet ~ “She” is looking for Serious Suitors Only

Inquire within at Jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

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Share the Love on Valentines Day!

Whether you are single or taken, Valentine’s Day can stir up a slew of emotions that far from warm and fuzzy. Valentine’s Day can be a reminder that your current partner isn’t meeting your expectations and if you are single, seeing all the schmoopy Facebook comments from attached friends and family is enough to send you into an emotional tail-spin. The good news is, Valentines day isn’t just for lovers. Here at The Real Matchmaker, we like to think that Valentine’s Day is a day to celebrate love in and of itself! Here are some sure-fire ways to make your heart melt on Valentine’s Day, regardless if you have a sweetheart.

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Play Cupid-Chances are you know a few other folks who are feeling a bit blue today. Surprise your lonely friends with a simple bouquet of flowers, or a small box of chocolates and write them a little love note. After all, part of the fun on Valentine’s Day is surprising the ones you love with a token of your affection!

Create a Tradition-When I lived in my home town, I would take my grandmother to her favorite Tea Room for lunch on Valentine’s Day. We would get all gussied up in our Valentine’s Day attire and talk about love. I will always cherish these memories and they are certainly some of the best Valentine’s Days I have ever had. Other ideas are taking Valentines cookies to your niece/nephew/god child’s class room, or volunteering at a community center.

Write Yourself a Love Letter- When you’re single it is so important to love yourself! Get some fancy stationary paper and write yourself a valentine note listing all the things you love about yourself and all the things you love about your life with YOU! You can seal it up and save it to read next year on Valentine’s Day.

Pamper Yourself-Go for a spa treatment, get your hair done, enjoy a mani/pedi. Not only will you feel awesome, your confidence will get a boost by sprucing up your look a bit. If you’re really feeling racy, go buy yourself a new piece of lingerie. Just because you don’t have someone to flaunt it for doesn’t mean you can’t still feel sexy!

HAVE FUN! Rally up your single pals and go out for a night on the town. Have dinner and drinks at a fancy restaurant or do a love-themed pot-luck. Make sure to tell each person why you love them!

We’re wishing all of you love bugs a Happy Valentine’s Day!

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Break-Up…Now What?

Reading about break-ups on a matchmaker blog may seem a bit ironic because we’re here to get people into relationships, not OUT of them. Well, the fact is that most of us have suffered a break up or two in our lives. Going through the end of a relationship can be devastating.

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Then the time comes a time when the dust begins to settle and the possibility of finding a new match doesn’t seem as scary as say, polar bearing  So what’s the next step after a break-up?

The most important step before you get serious about dating again is to put on the oxygen mask. That means that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. If you are still resentful about your ex, feeling insecure about your ability to attract a partner, have a difficult time trusting, etc., take the steps to move past your anger and doubt.  Beyond reading self-help books and therapy, there are things you can do to distract yourself from the pain of being single again and re-discover a wiser and more fulfilled version of yourself. Here are a few to get you excited about finding love (and you will!):

Be a Good Samaritan-Volunteering is a wonderful outlet because helping others helps to build your sense of self-value and enables you to open your heart.  Also, you may meet someone who is just as passionate about helping others-and that is hot. 

Learn Something New-If you’ve always wished you learned to tango, brushed up on your Spanish, or that you were a better cook, then now is the time to do it. Not only will you fill up the space you once spent with your partner, your confidence will soar and you’ll cross an item off your bucket list. Again, you open yourself to potentially meeting other quality singles by expanding your social life.

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Improve your surroundings-Give your bedroom a sexy makeover (luxurious sheets, anyone?), de-clutter and get organized (chuck that ugly painting your ex loved!), re-arrange your furniture, or plant a garden.  Investing inyour environment eases loneliness and motivates you to share it with someone new.

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Refresh your wardrobe-You are going to need some new date clothes for sure, and it’s likely your look has gotten a little stale or styles have changed since your last rodeo. For the love of God, get rid of your old underwear and socks (bras too, ladies!), and spoil yourself with new ones that you won’t mind showing off. And yes, there is such a thing as sexy socks.

 

Everyone is different when it comes to finding the best way to meet singles, and depending on your circumstances, things may have changed dramatically on the dating scene since you were last single. Online dating wasn’t around 20 years ago! You may be a few years out of college and scoping out hotties at a toga party or a bar crawl isn’t exactly your speed these days. The thing is, there are smarter ways to find your match than online dating, or standing around awkwardly at a bar. You can try a fun Single’s Partyor have an expert matchmaker go to work finding matches that are chosen  just for you.

You’ve read this far and you should be feeling stoked about who will be lucky enough to benefit from your mad cooking skills and play footsie with those sexy socks-but please, take them off before you hit those fancy new sheets! Go fill out your free, confidential Real Matchmaker Single Social Network Profile now to jump start your new and improved love life!

 

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Who Doesn’t Want to Be More Charismatic?

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If you are single and in the Los Angeles or San Francisco area then you know how unbelievably difficult it is to meet quality singles… Now add quality singles with charisma. Of course it looks so easy when we see that cool, confident person walk in the room. I know most of us wish we had mesmerizing charismatic effects on the opposite sex, like George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Bill Clinton, Madonna, Sofia Vergara and the Charlize Theron’s of the world (it would make dating a heck of a lot easier). Well believe it or not, these famous sexy, charismatic people where not always irresistible sex symbols. They, just like me and you, had to work at being magnetic.

What makes you attractive to the opposite sex even if you’re not the best looking person? What moves people to take notice of you wherever you are? What invisible “mojo magic” can mesmerize, seduce, motivate and persuade other attractive singles to notice you. It’s charisma, non the less; its so powerful yet can’t be seen or even touched but we all know when someone has it.

As Expert Matchmakers at The Real Matchmaker in Los Angeles and San Francisco, we have a series of question we ask our clients in order to find out their charisma level:

  1. In most situations are you seen as a leader?
  2. Do you always find it easy to make new friends or catch someone’s eye?
  3. Is it easy for you to make the 1st move?
  4. Are you often the center of attention?
  5. Do people generally consider you successful and attractive?
  6. Are you told you have a great sense of humor and know how to make people laugh?

If you can honestly answer Yes to all of these questions then you are here by deemed as a “high level charismatic person”. And on the other hand if you answered most of these questions with a No,  then here are some dating tips towards making your charisma irresistible.

  1. Engage with more expression, humor and with inflection in your voice. Being predictable is never sexy.
  2. Create a presence or make an impact when you enter a room. Charisma is confidence, high energy and creative, never cocky or overly aggressive.
  3. Its always good to keep a little mystery about yourself. Its never the loudest most obnoxious person in the room that is envied.
  4. Learn to tell stories better by painting pictures in a listeners mind. Don’t just tell your story, create an experience with descriptive language.
  5. Dare to have your own unique style. Most charismatic people are not copycats.
  6. As a rule of thumb, by honestly making people feel good about themselves will in return make them feel good about you.

Don’t let trying to be charismatic paralyze you, its suppose to help you discover who you really could be. Visit therealmatchmaker.com to sign up for a sizzling Single to Mingle event or an Attractive Singles Party where you can meet other professional singles and dazzle them with your charisma!

 

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Want a Healthy, Lasting Relationship? Keep it Simple!

We at The Real Matchmaker have been spending a ton of time lately researching the hundreds of dating coaches out there relationship advisers out there. It’s mind-boggling! Frankly, it’s difficult to comprehend how dating coaching can be effective without actually meeting people. Our mission in doing this research was to find the common themes and condense them into a handy dandy quick read so that you can spend less time trying to figure out how to get what you want and more time actually GETTING IT.

Love Yourself

Accept the person you are today. Acknowledge what you are most proud of. Take the steps to improve upon the areas in which you feel you need to grow. Make a commitment to say 3 nice things to yourself for every 1 negative thought.

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Be a reflection of the partner you desire

 

Assess yourself: Career, finances, body image, social life, family values, household habits, spirituality, emotional stability,  and what your relationship goals are. Are you a mirror of the partner that you desire? If not, you must choose to improve upon yourself or adjust your expectations. You must enter into a lasting relationship as equals.

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Remember: You are a capable of loving and being loved. You are worthy of adoration and loyalty. You are an open invitation to love and devotion.

Let Go of Fear

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This can be a challenge and it takes being very honest and vulnerable with yourself to identify the source of your fear. Fear is your biggest obstacle in attaining a healthy relationship, so we’ve developed some affirmations when you need to talk yourself off the ledge:

  • Fear of rejection (not being loved)

The person you attract will be attracted to you

  • Fear of needs not being met (disappointment)

The person you choose will compromise to meet your needs

  • Fear of abandonment (not feeling secure)

The person you attract will be loyal and supportive

  • Fear of not being good enough (not feeling valued)

The person you attract will celebrate the person you are today, not who you could potentially be

  • Fear of wasting time (missed opportunities)

You make a conscious decision to let go of your Plan B and invest your heart in the person in front of you

  • Fear of choosing the wrong partner (self-doubt)

You have reached a level of self-awareness and value that allows you to trust yourself in choosing a partner that is attracted to you, meets your needs, that is loyal, that celebrates who you are today, and you have let go of questioning who else is out there.

Get into ACTION

You will not bring a partner into your life without action. Get involved with singles social groups, join an online dating site, and hire a matchmaker. Make a commitment to go on at least 2 dates a month.

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ccept that your life will change when you bring another into your life

You will be glad to accommodate and make room for your partner in life. Clear out space to actively seek your partner.

Change Your Mind-set About the Journey

Finding your partner should be fun. Let go of your expectations of the end result and enjoy the present. When you are engaged in the moment, happy, and care-free you will be more likely to attract a loving partner.

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