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8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

👉🏽 While you think you’re acing it on a 1st date, you sometimes end up making really careless dating mistakes.
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*Being Too Choosy And Picky

Are you waiting for someone better to come along? Well, the trick is to live for the moment and go with that gut feeling.
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*Being The Indifferent Fool

If you’re trying to play hard to get, maybe, just maybe it’s getting old? Old Tricks are not always GOOD TRICKS 👎🏽
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*Not Texting Back

It’s a stupid game and no one is interested in waiting to hear back from you. If you really want her SHOW HER 📲Text or Call 👍🏽
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*Don’t Start Sexting Straight Away and stop asking for more pics – MEET her already

If it’s a fresh new beginning, which starts with a ‘hey, what’s up’, don’t, I repeat, don’t send her d*ick pictures straight away, just because you can let jack out of the box, anytime you like. Hold it in and make conversation like a decent man please.
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*Romance Is NOT For Wimps

No harm in showing your sweeter side once in a while with sweet and lovable romantic gestures. You don’t become any less of a man for being sweet, selfless and caring!
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*Expecting Or Asking For Sex On The First Date

No one owes you a free f*ck just because you bought them dinner. So please be a gentleman and stop thinking about humping the daylights out of her, on your first date.
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*X Doesn’t Mark The Spot

Why would you want to bring out the X-files? She’s not interested in who you dated or who you banged 4 months ago. 😳
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👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽 Oh yeah one more thing! 👈🏽👈🏽👈🏽
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*Make up your mind, IN ADVANCE to have fun 🙌🏽 LAUGHTER IS SEXY!

Love, Jessie 

 

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Get noticed! Learn to approach someone in the real world.

Get noticed, learn to approach someone out and about in the Real World.

It’s terrifying and it can be thrilling all at once, if only he/she knew you were interested.

Have you ever been out around town minding your own business – and Boom! You see him or her and your heart stops. As your eyes follow them around, you keep thinking,”How can I make him/her notice me? How can I stand out in public?”.

Here are a few tips to get his/her attention:

  • Stand-out, be known for something. Do you have a favorite color? Take for instance Lisa-Raye McCoy (instagram.com/thereallraye1/) is known for only wearing the color white everything. She’s branding herself and making herself stand out. Or maybe you have a favorite hat or sports team memorabilia you can sport around. I happen to love the Minnesota Vikings, I am known for sporting a Vikings hat or Vikings T-shirt. And let me tell you ladies…this has become a great talking point whenever I encounter men out and about. Men always look at my hat or shirt and smile, maybe even comment on my Vikings season. I also comment whenever I see men wearing their favorite sporting memorabilia with “nice team or good luck with your season or nice game”. It always opens up engaging, competitive sort of conversations that lead to fun talk.
  • Know your motives. Knowing your motivation helps you keep going and makes it easy for others to relate to you. Why do you do you think you would be a good match for them? What do you like about the person you want to approach; eyes, hair, skin, smile, laugh, brain, physique, presence or maybe everything. Surprise them with a compliment, “Love your eyes”. You will definitely stand out, it’s rare for someone to compliment someone they don’t know personally.
  • Be prepared. When the opportunity opens up, be the person who is ready and able to be part of the moment. A good way to prepare is by having something clever to say when you have the chance to say something – “I love your hat”. “You have a great smile, you should use it more often” (make eye contact with him/her and smile). “Good seeing you here again” (be sure to make eye contact with him/her and smile).                                                                                                               “I’ve been wanting to say Hello to you, it feels good we finally did” (use this only if you are daring enough).
  • Love yourself confidently – what message are you giving off. Make sure you know how you show up. How do you act in public? Do you know how the opposite sex perceives you (get honest feedback from friends, relatives, ex’s or better yet from a matchmaker). Everything you say or do is a reflection of who you are – it’s called character. Try to be in high spirits on a more consistent basis. Smile when you talk to people – even when on the phone. I promise it will make your conversations feel better and sound better.
  • BE BRAVE-INTRODUCE YOURSELF. Keep it simple. If you frequent the place often you can say, “I see you around a lot, I don’t think we’ve actually met. I’m _______”. If you are really brave then go ahead and slightly brush up against him/her and you can say, “Oh, Excuse you…kidding! Excuse me, I’m ______ how you are? Sorry didn’t get your name? Nice to meet you, I hope to run into you again – literally. Have a good one” (don’t forget to smile and flirt a little with your eyes as you slowly walk away). AND if you run into them again, this gives you permission to say something like, “You again, nice to see you” (with an excited smile on your face). Or You could just go for it, what do you have to lose…Say something like, “For some reason I keep looking your direction, I find you very interesting. Do we know each other? I’m _______ by the way”.

Put yourself in the drivers seat of your dating life, it’s ok to “go for it” and get noticed while out in the Real world.

For more dating advice or confidence building with dating – you can reach me at jessie@therealmathcmaker.com or give me a call at 855-664-4588. Let’s talk about your dating or coaching plan, meet Mr or Miss Right this year.

Jessie Kay

 

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5 Things You Can Do To Increase Online Dating Responses

 

Get better online dating responses

Dating can be very frustrating…and getting positive responses from online dating, can be tortuous. If you are single and sincerely looking for love, I encourage you to be on at least one dating site. Leave No stone unturned.

Here are 5 helpful tips to increase your online dating responses: 

  • Timing is everything 

Check the dating pool temperature, know when the person you are looking for is online most. According to Zoosk the time that Men are most found online checking their messages is between 7am-10am. And Zoosk found almost the polar opposite for women. Women are found to be more active, checking their messages between the hours of 8pm-11pm. So send the guy or the gal you have been eyeing a “Good morning early bird” or “Good evening night owl” message between those times. Or engage with them through instant message by saying something like, “Good morning, I wanted to check-in with you early to say Hello, that way you start your day off with a smile” (replace the Good morning with Good evening for messages to women – also change “that way you end your night with a smile”). Take the initiative if you are serious about finding love this year.

  • Post more activity pictures 

According to Match.com people engage more with pictures that show you being active, alive and adventurous. So whether it is hiking, surfing, walking outdoors, paddle boarding, skiing or sharing the infamous yoga pose – post some really great active shots where we can clearly see you are having fun (be sure they are not blurry pictures and that we can see your face).

  • Master the selfie

Master the art of taking a selfie and for pete’s sake keep your friends out of the picture. Who needs the competition or the confusion of whose profile is this anyway. Beside make your meet and greet about the two of you not your family and friends (at least not yet).

  • Positive words, will lead to positive results 

The words can’t, won’t and picky are used way to often in the dating world. I can not tell you how many profiles I have read that start off with negative information. Instead of the word can’t or won’t use the words – I’ll try or I’m open. Instead of telling everyone you meet you’re picky- use your dating time wisely, tell people what you want rather than what you don’t want. Ask for a dating referral if they themselves are not right for you. 

  • Have fun with rewriting your profile

It’s important that you put some effort into your profile but don’t make it to clinical or resemble a resume format. Guys this means you too, women don’t like blank profiles. Remember women fall in love with words or with actual conversation (the old saying women fall in love through their ears is a true statement).

Enjoy telling people about what they are in for when they meet you. For example these phrases, lead to more views and response.

  1. I love a good happy hour. Do you have a favorite place?
  2. I am always up for a good cocktail and better apps (appetizers).
  3. I love a good lunch adventure, let’s find a new spot to meet.
  4. I am really into creating eventful fun…let’s make some fun memories together.

For more dating advice or coaching efforts please contact me personally, I would love to help you spice up your dating life with better results.

Jessie Kay 

855-664-4588 

or email me personally at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Who’s your Valentine?

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, the usual dinner-and box of chocolate and or flowers will certainly get the job done this year. But this is your chance to prove your love and show your Valentine just how special they are. In other words, Valentine’s Day calls for something truly elevated, step up your game! 

To help you out, we rounded up some inventive, unforgettable, heart-throbbing date ideas in the Los Angeles area (could apply in other area’s, google idea for similar places to go).

Escape Room 

Looking for a fun and unique activity for your Valentine’s day date? Escape Room LA is a one-of-a-kind interactive adventure that everyone will love! There’s an Escape Room in LA, clues are tricky, but no special skills or knowledge is required. It’s a Fun Date Night! I’ve done it. 

Shopping spree anyone?   

Find fun, unique stores, stores that may tell a story —shop locally, I love this fun store on Melrose Ave www.newprofanity.com – funny place to take a date – deep discussions required. Keep strolling together down Melrose Ave or a nice walk through Laguna Beach local shops, if you dare hit the malls. Decide on a set amount of money. You each have 30 minutes to buy something for each other. Whomever picks the best gift wins. 

Dance to jazz like it’s the Roaring Twenties 

Hit up a local hot Jazz club, make a ’20s-themed evening out of it, time for fun dress up. Gentleman get the chance to bust out your three-piece suits and swanky hats. Ladies get to break out their glitter flapper dresses, make a night of it. Order old fashion drinks and cuddle up to a great night of music and fun. www.catalinajazzclub.com

Make your own art and sip 

 www.paintandsipstudiola.com Here you bring your own wine—or beverage of choice—and make your most valiant effort at painting a predetermined piece. Though every piece of art is ostensibly based off the same initial artwork, the results are generally wildly different, and quite entertaining.This a great opportunity for you to chat, laugh and get creative with your Valentine’s Day Date.

Dinner at the movies 

All around the country, you’ll find more and more movie theaters (like IPIC Theater) that offer the whole package: Drinks, dinner, and, of course, a movie. Talk about getting comfy :-). www.ipictheaters.com/#/home/

Still looking for love? Please JOIN OUR EXCLUSIVE SINGLES NETWORK. Let us see who’s looking for you. www.therealmatchmaker.com/contact-us/

 

Love, Jessie 

855-664-4588 

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LA California Matchmakers

What is Love Search Networking?

Let us approach singles for you!

 

 

 

 

 

 

We are positioning ourselves as “Love Recruiters”. We actually enjoy doing the love search for you.

Look, we know being single in these times is incredibly hard. Swiping left and right, dismissing each other is becoming a way of life with dating. We want to relieve you of the swiping, we are looking to celebrate you! It’s our goal to separate you from the online dating apps and highlight you as someone – “I can’t believe is single”

According to Revise Sociology, most of us work 50% of our waking hours. With that being said, we encourage you to spend the remaining 50% of your waking hours on getting to know someone special rather than searching high and low. Take action! While you are at work or living your active life, we are behind the scenes developing relationships with people who can help in your love search.

We work on your behalf finding dating and love opportunities – we will ask everyone for dating referrals.

Timing is everything and if you don’t have the time let us do the date scouting work for you.

Join our Exclusive Singles Network, let us do a quick search for you.

Love, Jessie

855-664-4588

 

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Dating in 2016

DATING 2016

If you didn’t lock down a life partner around 2007, you’ve probably experienced how laughably difficult dating is for SINGLE professionals in our big, yet ever-so-small cities.

It seems nobody wants to settle down. And those who do can be disgruntled and disappointed in the end.

6 reasons why it’s more difficult than ever on the single scene — especially if you’re looking for a relationship.

Social Media:

We don’t have to tell you that social media has been both a blessing and a curse for Singles.

Tinder etc:

Swiping right and left method. Decisions made on Picture alone… “What is happening to us?”
***Do you find yourself bragging about your Tinder account but yet you are still single… Why? I hear this often….

Increased competition:

Have you looked in the mirror- there are HOT girls and HOT guys everywhere… I mean everywhere…. HOW DO YOU MEASURE UP?

Looking for Mr/Ms Perfect- Are you Perfect?:

Expectations to HIGH? Are we all too focused on the “Pic” and not the person?

The Scene:

There’s so much everywhere going on all the time it makes it hard to know where, when and how.

Romance gone:

When the Romance is gone those of us with similar high hopes of a serendipitous courtship are usually disappointed.

There is a SECRET to getting better results…Better Results start with a Better You!

Could you be “A BETTER YOU”?

 

For personalized dating tips, call Jessie at 855-664-4588 

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Are you always looking for the RIGHT ONE?

 

I have found that a lot of single people are still single not because they haven’t found “the right one.” The right ones are all over the place. They are single because of the stories they tell themselves about relationships. Their stories tend to center on why things can’t work rather than why they can. The trick to going from a single person to a couple isn’t about finding the right one at all. It’s about reminding yourself that the stories you tell yourself aren’t real.
To become a couple you have to risk feeling fear and disappointment. You have to risk the hurt or getting your heart broken. You have already tried to navigate around those things by treating dating like you’re interviewing someone for a job, haven’t you? Strangely enough even when the person passed the interview you still found reasons that they weren’t right for you. Dating, relationships, marriage is all emotionally risky. Get used to it. Do not fear it. Instead, remember that risk is the most exciting part of any new venture. Only when you transcend your fears, your outdated beliefs and your stories do you get to experience something new and amazing.

Jessie Kay

Expert Matchmaker 19 year

Always in love with love

855-664-4588

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12 REASONS WHY DATING IN LA IS SO DIFFICULT

12 REASONS WHY DATING IN LA

IS SO DIFFICULT

You’re right. Dating in LA can be difficult. And to some, it even sucks. Which is why we got professional dating coach (!!!) Laurel House to walk us through why dating here is different from anywhere else in the world, so we all at least know what we’re up against.

Everyone is always “on”

Runyon Canyon is supposed to be the kind of relaxed type of place where people should have their guard down, but instead everyone is in full hair and makeup, and unnecessarily sexy athletic wear, JUST IN CASE.

Age is truly just a number

Thanks to age-confusing plastic surgery and makeup, it’s not uncommon to go from dating someone who could be your parent to someone who could be your kid.

Is it a date, interview, reality show taping, or networking opportunity?

On the rare occasion that you are actually asked out in person, the purpose isn’t always clear. Do they want to hire you or screw you? Or both? Or… neither?

You’ll date someone who’s an entrepreneur, producer, writer, actor, director, or model

Aka someone who’s under- or unemployed. Or both.

Accidentally meeting someone on the street or in passing is rare

Lots of us work from home, leaving little time for in-person social interactions. And for those of us who have real “jobs,” unlike in cities where public transportation is the norm, we sequester ourselves in our cars, only to deposit ourselves at the office. Bumping into that person you were flirting with last night? Not gonna happen.

Each town has its own type

Santa Monica, Venice, Hollywood, West Hollywood, Hermosa, Silver Lake, Beverly Hills, Pasadena, Sherman Oaks, or Downtown… more than being a driving distance apart, each area is an attitude apart, too. From hipster to highfalutin, beach bum to buttoned-up, where a person resides can say a lot about their personality, profession… and tendency to be on time.

Divorced with kids? That’s a turn… on?

In LA, having a kid can be even more of a turn on: it shows that you know how to be responsible, nurture, and care for another. And in a town filled with flakes, that’s seriously sexy.

Absolutely everyone is online

Because of the urban sprawl, workaholic hours, and number of work-from-home entrepreneurs/actors/writers/directors/models, online dating long ago shed itself of any stigma. Sometimes it feels like another form of social media as you are matched up with your neighbor, co-worker, best friend, best friend’s ex, and even your own ex. Awkward? Sure. Part of the deal? Yup.

“Do I know you?” “Oh. Sorry.”

You have to be careful who you smile at, wave to, or approach and ask “do I know you?” Chances are high that you know them from either seeing them on the big screen, little screen, or online dating scene, which is particularly unfortunate if you’ve repeatedly ignored or turned them down.

There is literally someone more beautiful and richer (or they claim to be) at the next table

You will never be the prettiest, richest, most successful, or most famous person in LA (sorry) — there will always be someone better than you in all superficial departments, which makes dating a constant merry-go-round if you’re just in it to have fun or be arm candy. It’s way too easy for anyone to turn their head to the left or right, and see something more tempting.

Expectations are exceedingly high, thanks to a few truly wealthy guys

Sorry dudes, once a lady’s been treated to the tasting menu at Melisse or box seats at the Hollywood Bowl, happy hour drinks seem a bit… dismal.

But just because a dude pulls up in a Porsche, it doesn’t mean he can pay his rent

And just because he drives a “regular” car, it doesn’t mean he’s barely getting by. Tons of wealthy dudes have low-profile cars specifically to find out whether they’re dating a gold digger.

Great article by Lauren House — Thank you!
Jessie the Matchmaker 
Expert Matchmaker 18+ years 
“Date Smarter Not Harder” 
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Get UN-SINGLE for 2015

GET A CLEAR VISION ABOUT YOUR DATING LIFE IN 2015
It’s about two weeks into 2015 and amongst all the resolutions, you will have thought about your relationship situation, especially if it’s non-existent. If you felt lost, frazzled and exhausted about your dating life in 2014, then now is the time to get CLEAR VISION about your dating life in 2015.
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What is it you are after? Long term relationship? Marriage? Or just dating?  Are you really looking for a serious relationship?  Decide on what it is you are after before you set foot on a date or make decisions about joining a matchmaker or an online dating site.  If you are asked about what you are looking for, express a clear vision and be honest. Be truthful to yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.
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So you’ve decided that 2015 is the year to get UN-SINGLE.  Are you asking for too much? Are you really setting realistic goals? Are you being so picky that now you are the one standing in your own way?  Most singles are busy and may or may not have a plan, nevertheless stick to a plan. Listen it’s all well and good if you are leaving it to fate or the universe but seriously, your Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on your door.  So it’s your choice to decide to try a little bit of everything (online dating, hitting the bars, matchmaking, singles events, makeover or taking up a new hobby) then make a plan and start the process.  It will require a bit of persistence, everybody knows that online dating can be a chore at times but nothing worthwhile comes easy.  Keep your options open as you never know where and when a great person may show up.
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Saying you want someone kind, happy and giving is a good start but it doesn’t say much else about the qualities you want. A good place to start is to look at yourself and define the kind of characteristics you have with a written list.  What is so great about you?  A relationship works best if you have similar qualities. So if you are ambitious, funny, well-dressed, sporty, attractive, educated then the chances are, you will want someone similar.  Of course, there will be times when you meet someone ambitious, funny and well educated but they turn out to be obsessed with work, critical and your sense of humor doesn’t match up.  Your ‘type’ may need to be refined after each date. Its always a good idea to take mental notes or keep a log so you’re making positive progress after each date. Please remember, having a very stringent list can lead to nothing good!
Get a clear vision on your lifestyle choicesUnknown
Your lifestyle choices can play a big part in stopping you from meeting new attractive singles. If you work long hours, take a step back and allow yourself free time for your hobbies, interests, friends, singles events and dating. Hanging around with your married friends and their children will leave you on the shelf just gathering dust and with most things on a shelf there is an expiration date. Pay special attention to where you live and your surroundings. Are you near and around the types of people you would like to meet and pursue? You get the picture right? You have to make changes to see the positive results and open yourself up to new and better opportunities to meet new attractive singles.
At THE REAL MATCHMAKER, our plan is to help people get a CLEAR VISION on they’re dating lives and get UN-SINGLE. We are here to offer support, love and encouragement all along the way.  GET UN-SINGLE in 2015!
Jessie the Matchmaker 
855-664-4588 (4LUV) 
Expert Matchmaker for 18+ years 
Jessie

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