Dating can be very frustrating…and getting positive responses from online dating, can be tortuous. If you are single and sincerely looking for love, I encourage you to be on at least one dating site. Leave No stone unturned.
Here are 5 helpful tips to increase your online dating responses:
- Timing is everything
Check the dating pool temperature, know when the person you are looking for is online most. According to Zoosk the time that Men are most found online checking their messages is between 7am-10am. And Zoosk found almost the polar opposite for women. Women are found to be more active, checking their messages between the hours of 8pm-11pm. So send the guy or the gal you have been eyeing a “Good morning early bird” or “Good evening night owl” message between those times. Or engage with them through instant message by saying something like, “Good morning, I wanted to check-in with you early to say Hello, that way you start your day off with a smile” (replace the Good morning with Good evening for messages to women – also change “that way you end your night with a smile”). Take the initiative if you are serious about finding love this year.
- Post more activity pictures
According to Match.com people engage more with pictures that show you being active, alive and adventurous. So whether it is hiking, surfing, walking outdoors, paddle boarding, skiing or sharing the infamous yoga pose – post some really great active shots where we can clearly see you are having fun (be sure they are not blurry pictures and that we can see your face).
- Master the selfie
Master the art of taking a selfie and for pete’s sake keep your friends out of the picture. Who needs the competition or the confusion of whose profile is this anyway. Beside make your meet and greet about the two of you not your family and friends (at least not yet).
- Positive words, will lead to positive results
The words can’t, won’t and picky are used way to often in the dating world. I can not tell you how many profiles I have read that start off with negative information. Instead of the word can’t or won’t use the words – I’ll try or I’m open. Instead of telling everyone you meet you’re picky- use your dating time wisely, tell people what you want rather than what you don’t want. Ask for a dating referral if they themselves are not right for you.
- Have fun with rewriting your profile
It’s important that you put some effort into your profile but don’t make it to clinical or resemble a resume format. Guys this means you too, women don’t like blank profiles. Remember women fall in love with words or with actual conversation (the old saying women fall in love through their ears is a true statement).
Enjoy telling people about what they are in for when they meet you. For example these phrases, lead to more views and response.
- I love a good happy hour. Do you have a favorite place?
- I am always up for a good cocktail and better apps (appetizers).
- I love a good lunch adventure, let’s find a new spot to meet.
- I am really into creating eventful fun…let’s make some fun memories together.
For more dating advice or coaching efforts please contact me personally, I would love to help you spice up your dating life with better results.
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