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5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

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I thought if only I could meet a wonderful person who had their act together then all would fall into place with my life. 😳

The problem with this kind of fantasy is that a healthy happy person wants a healthy happy partner too. This kind of healthy person does not want to engage with someone who is struggling with not liking themselves. Someone who is unhappy with their weight, unhappy with their life and who is also hiding out from their life goals and dreams – can’t be ready for Real love.

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1. Do you obsess about your body, the way you look AND do you put others down – People who may look good or who look healthier than you do.

When you’re obsessed with your look and unhappy with your overall self – this problem will show through NO matter how hard you try to cover it up with a fake smile.

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2. You consistently doubt yourself. AND you doubt others around you.

Self-doubt is simply not sexy – neither is doubting others.

Self-confidence VERY SEXY! Cheering on others – also VERY SEXY!

If you’re second-guessing yourself and others constantly, then your self-doubt will shine through. You might succeed in hiding it for a short time but eventually, it will come out as UNATTRACTIVE BEHAVIOR.

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3. You constantly seek approval. You have to be the center of attention where every you go.

When you seek approval from anyone except from yourself, you’re basically asking others to tell you that YOU deserve to be here with them.

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4. You’re hiding out from others and yourself.

How many people do you know that have dreams but they are not going for them. One of my biggest pet peeves- Big TALKERS 😩…You’re playing it safe and holding back. Live Your Best Life Ever!🙌

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5. You blame others (Stop blaming others!) for your problems.

Taking Personal responsibility is VERY SEXY! Taking full personal responsibility for your health and happiness will attract a stellar mate who is happy and healthy THEMSELVES. 🙏

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jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Get noticed! Learn to approach someone in the real world.

Get noticed, learn to approach someone out and about in the Real World.

It’s terrifying and it can be thrilling all at once, if only he/she knew you were interested.

Have you ever been out around town minding your own business – and Boom! You see him or her and your heart stops. As your eyes follow them around, you keep thinking,”How can I make him/her notice me? How can I stand out in public?”.

Here are a few tips to get his/her attention:

  • Stand-out, be known for something. Do you have a favorite color? Take for instance Lisa-Raye McCoy (instagram.com/thereallraye1/) is known for only wearing the color white everything. She’s branding herself and making herself stand out. Or maybe you have a favorite hat or sports team memorabilia you can sport around. I happen to love the Minnesota Vikings, I am known for sporting a Vikings hat or Vikings T-shirt. And let me tell you ladies…this has become a great talking point whenever I encounter men out and about. Men always look at my hat or shirt and smile, maybe even comment on my Vikings season. I also comment whenever I see men wearing their favorite sporting memorabilia with “nice team or good luck with your season or nice game”. It always opens up engaging, competitive sort of conversations that lead to fun talk.
  • Know your motives. Knowing your motivation helps you keep going and makes it easy for others to relate to you. Why do you do you think you would be a good match for them? What do you like about the person you want to approach; eyes, hair, skin, smile, laugh, brain, physique, presence or maybe everything. Surprise them with a compliment, “Love your eyes”. You will definitely stand out, it’s rare for someone to compliment someone they don’t know personally.
  • Be prepared. When the opportunity opens up, be the person who is ready and able to be part of the moment. A good way to prepare is by having something clever to say when you have the chance to say something – “I love your hat”. “You have a great smile, you should use it more often” (make eye contact with him/her and smile). “Good seeing you here again” (be sure to make eye contact with him/her and smile).                                                                                                               “I’ve been wanting to say Hello to you, it feels good we finally did” (use this only if you are daring enough).
  • Love yourself confidently – what message are you giving off. Make sure you know how you show up. How do you act in public? Do you know how the opposite sex perceives you (get honest feedback from friends, relatives, ex’s or better yet from a matchmaker). Everything you say or do is a reflection of who you are – it’s called character. Try to be in high spirits on a more consistent basis. Smile when you talk to people – even when on the phone. I promise it will make your conversations feel better and sound better.
  • BE BRAVE-INTRODUCE YOURSELF. Keep it simple. If you frequent the place often you can say, “I see you around a lot, I don’t think we’ve actually met. I’m _______”. If you are really brave then go ahead and slightly brush up against him/her and you can say, “Oh, Excuse you…kidding! Excuse me, I’m ______ how you are? Sorry didn’t get your name? Nice to meet you, I hope to run into you again – literally. Have a good one” (don’t forget to smile and flirt a little with your eyes as you slowly walk away). AND if you run into them again, this gives you permission to say something like, “You again, nice to see you” (with an excited smile on your face). Or You could just go for it, what do you have to lose…Say something like, “For some reason I keep looking your direction, I find you very interesting. Do we know each other? I’m _______ by the way”.

Put yourself in the drivers seat of your dating life, it’s ok to “go for it” and get noticed while out in the Real world.

For more dating advice or confidence building with dating – you can reach me at jessie@therealmathcmaker.com or give me a call at 855-664-4588. Let’s talk about your dating or coaching plan, meet Mr or Miss Right this year.

Jessie Kay

 

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5 Things You Can Do To Increase Online Dating Responses

 

Get better online dating responses

Dating can be very frustrating…and getting positive responses from online dating, can be tortuous. If you are single and sincerely looking for love, I encourage you to be on at least one dating site. Leave No stone unturned.

Here are 5 helpful tips to increase your online dating responses: 

  • Timing is everything 

Check the dating pool temperature, know when the person you are looking for is online most. According to Zoosk the time that Men are most found online checking their messages is between 7am-10am. And Zoosk found almost the polar opposite for women. Women are found to be more active, checking their messages between the hours of 8pm-11pm. So send the guy or the gal you have been eyeing a “Good morning early bird” or “Good evening night owl” message between those times. Or engage with them through instant message by saying something like, “Good morning, I wanted to check-in with you early to say Hello, that way you start your day off with a smile” (replace the Good morning with Good evening for messages to women – also change “that way you end your night with a smile”). Take the initiative if you are serious about finding love this year.

  • Post more activity pictures 

According to Match.com people engage more with pictures that show you being active, alive and adventurous. So whether it is hiking, surfing, walking outdoors, paddle boarding, skiing or sharing the infamous yoga pose – post some really great active shots where we can clearly see you are having fun (be sure they are not blurry pictures and that we can see your face).

  • Master the selfie

Master the art of taking a selfie and for pete’s sake keep your friends out of the picture. Who needs the competition or the confusion of whose profile is this anyway. Beside make your meet and greet about the two of you not your family and friends (at least not yet).

  • Positive words, will lead to positive results 

The words can’t, won’t and picky are used way to often in the dating world. I can not tell you how many profiles I have read that start off with negative information. Instead of the word can’t or won’t use the words – I’ll try or I’m open. Instead of telling everyone you meet you’re picky- use your dating time wisely, tell people what you want rather than what you don’t want. Ask for a dating referral if they themselves are not right for you. 

  • Have fun with rewriting your profile

It’s important that you put some effort into your profile but don’t make it to clinical or resemble a resume format. Guys this means you too, women don’t like blank profiles. Remember women fall in love with words or with actual conversation (the old saying women fall in love through their ears is a true statement).

Enjoy telling people about what they are in for when they meet you. For example these phrases, lead to more views and response.

  1. I love a good happy hour. Do you have a favorite place?
  2. I am always up for a good cocktail and better apps (appetizers).
  3. I love a good lunch adventure, let’s find a new spot to meet.
  4. I am really into creating eventful fun…let’s make some fun memories together.

For more dating advice or coaching efforts please contact me personally, I would love to help you spice up your dating life with better results.

Jessie Kay 

855-664-4588 

or email me personally at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Dating in 2016

DATING 2016

If you didn’t lock down a life partner around 2007, you’ve probably experienced how laughably difficult dating is for SINGLE professionals in our big, yet ever-so-small cities.

It seems nobody wants to settle down. And those who do can be disgruntled and disappointed in the end.

6 reasons why it’s more difficult than ever on the single scene — especially if you’re looking for a relationship.

Social Media:

We don’t have to tell you that social media has been both a blessing and a curse for Singles.

Tinder etc:

Swiping right and left method. Decisions made on Picture alone… “What is happening to us?”
***Do you find yourself bragging about your Tinder account but yet you are still single… Why? I hear this often….

Increased competition:

Have you looked in the mirror- there are HOT girls and HOT guys everywhere… I mean everywhere…. HOW DO YOU MEASURE UP?

Looking for Mr/Ms Perfect- Are you Perfect?:

Expectations to HIGH? Are we all too focused on the “Pic” and not the person?

The Scene:

There’s so much everywhere going on all the time it makes it hard to know where, when and how.

Romance gone:

When the Romance is gone those of us with similar high hopes of a serendipitous courtship are usually disappointed.

There is a SECRET to getting better results…Better Results start with a Better You!

Could you be “A BETTER YOU”?

 

For personalized dating tips, call Jessie at 855-664-4588 

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