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Make good choices for your love life

🙆🏽‍♀️How big of an age range do you think is reasonable when dating in today’s world? I talk to many singles who are open to dating someone 10 years younger but can’t fathom dating someone 10 years older. Are we becoming ageist? Or is this the new normal?

>Is it ok to called out on your age choices?

>Do you think by mid life most people know what works for them and what doesn’t?

I know I know, we all have our “ideal preferences”… but is that laundry list so long, so detailed that it’s keeping you out of the dating game?

It is my belief that the way we perceive ourselves and those we ‘think’ we should be with have a significant impact on the life we manifest.

When we wait for the perfect partner we may find ourselves making any number of excuses to put our lives on hold in the meantime.

Well, I’m here to encourage you to commit yourself to looking at dating as an opportunity, one that may lead to new energy in your life.

🤦🏽‍♀️ Release preconceived notion‘s

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🙅🏽‍♀️Leave old routines in the past

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💁🏽‍♀️ View each day as an opportunity

Are you open to possibilities? Join our free confidential database and “Let’s see who’s looking for you!”

Jessie

855-664-4588

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5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

5 Things You Might Be Doing That Scare A Healthy, Happy Mate Away

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I thought if only I could meet a wonderful person who had their act together then all would fall into place with my life. 😳

The problem with this kind of fantasy is that a healthy happy person wants a healthy happy partner too. This kind of healthy person does not want to engage with someone who is struggling with not liking themselves. Someone who is unhappy with their weight, unhappy with their life and who is also hiding out from their life goals and dreams – can’t be ready for Real love.

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1. Do you obsess about your body, the way you look AND do you put others down – People who may look good or who look healthier than you do.

When you’re obsessed with your look and unhappy with your overall self – this problem will show through NO matter how hard you try to cover it up with a fake smile.

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2. You consistently doubt yourself. AND you doubt others around you.

Self-doubt is simply not sexy – neither is doubting others.

Self-confidence VERY SEXY! Cheering on others – also VERY SEXY!

If you’re second-guessing yourself and others constantly, then your self-doubt will shine through. You might succeed in hiding it for a short time but eventually, it will come out as UNATTRACTIVE BEHAVIOR.

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3. You constantly seek approval. You have to be the center of attention where every you go.

When you seek approval from anyone except from yourself, you’re basically asking others to tell you that YOU deserve to be here with them.

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4. You’re hiding out from others and yourself.

How many people do you know that have dreams but they are not going for them. One of my biggest pet peeves- Big TALKERS 😩…You’re playing it safe and holding back. Live Your Best Life Ever!🙌

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5. You blame others (Stop blaming others!) for your problems.

Taking Personal responsibility is VERY SEXY! Taking full personal responsibility for your health and happiness will attract a stellar mate who is happy and healthy THEMSELVES. 🙏

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🗣JOIN OUR FREE DATABASE-MEET SOMEONE HEALTHY AND HAPPY.

*FILL OUT A CONFIDENTIAL PROFILE NOW. WE ARE LOOKING FOR “GOOD” MATCHES FOR OUR CURRENT “AMAZING” CLIENTS – FILL OUT A PROFILE, LET’S SEE WHO’S LOOKING FOR YOU.

Love, Jessie

jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Your Love Life Is Not Always Like A Maze

 

 

I think, based on optimism, that life is a journey with U-turns curves and pot holes rather than a just a maze of lines. A maze seems trite or a little simple to me. At least for my life.

It never ceases to amaze me how some people stroll through life, always the same mood, always happy on the outside anyway and seemingly settled (so they think). I’ve mentioned this here because there are some strategies I’ve used to jump some of life’s tough hurdles. Hurdles that may “Hold Me Back”.

Rid your life of negative destructive or uncomfortable people. They are a good portion of the population. Believe it!😳
Expect 50% to be eliminated in your mind. Means bumping into them at shops, talk for a maximum of 30 seconds to be polite and – go! You eliminate any chance of getting upset. That includes your social media friends too.

🚘 If you can afford to move. Or opt to work from home…less stress. No parking metres, calm lifestyle, friendly people in smaller towns. And you are out of the rat race.

Release your Superwoman or Superman. Stop expecting too much of yourself. Organize your life so you don’t get caught up in things that should have been done. Rushing to do them causes stress. Delegate…..if you have to or plan better.

🙏🏼Cherish what you have – not what you do not have. Life is full of beautiful imperfections…channel your emotions to others. Channel what you would have channelled to loved ones – had you had the chance. 💫

❤️ Find “Real Love” with “Real people who want love, the ones open to possibilities” and connect with your Spiritual peace from within, whatever that is for you. 😬

Call Jessie for Coaching Tips – “Get the Partner you’re looking for” 

Jessie 855-664-4588

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8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

8 Most Dating Mistakes Men Make & Don’t End Up Scoring A 2nd Date

👉🏽 While you think you’re acing it on a 1st date, you sometimes end up making really careless dating mistakes.
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*Being Too Choosy And Picky

Are you waiting for someone better to come along? Well, the trick is to live for the moment and go with that gut feeling.
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*Being The Indifferent Fool

If you’re trying to play hard to get, maybe, just maybe it’s getting old? Old Tricks are not always GOOD TRICKS 👎🏽
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*Not Texting Back

It’s a stupid game and no one is interested in waiting to hear back from you. If you really want her SHOW HER 📲Text or Call 👍🏽
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*Don’t Start Sexting Straight Away and stop asking for more pics – MEET her already

If it’s a fresh new beginning, which starts with a ‘hey, what’s up’, don’t, I repeat, don’t send her d*ick pictures straight away, just because you can let jack out of the box, anytime you like. Hold it in and make conversation like a decent man please.
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*Romance Is NOT For Wimps

No harm in showing your sweeter side once in a while with sweet and lovable romantic gestures. You don’t become any less of a man for being sweet, selfless and caring!
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*Expecting Or Asking For Sex On The First Date

No one owes you a free f*ck just because you bought them dinner. So please be a gentleman and stop thinking about humping the daylights out of her, on your first date.
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*X Doesn’t Mark The Spot

Why would you want to bring out the X-files? She’s not interested in who you dated or who you banged 4 months ago. 😳
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👉🏽👉🏽👉🏽 Oh yeah one more thing! 👈🏽👈🏽👈🏽
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*Make up your mind, IN ADVANCE to have fun 🙌🏽 LAUGHTER IS SEXY!

Love, Jessie 

 

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5 Things You Can Do To Increase Online Dating Responses

 

Get better online dating responses

Dating can be very frustrating…and getting positive responses from online dating, can be tortuous. If you are single and sincerely looking for love, I encourage you to be on at least one dating site. Leave No stone unturned.

Here are 5 helpful tips to increase your online dating responses: 

  • Timing is everything 

Check the dating pool temperature, know when the person you are looking for is online most. According to Zoosk the time that Men are most found online checking their messages is between 7am-10am. And Zoosk found almost the polar opposite for women. Women are found to be more active, checking their messages between the hours of 8pm-11pm. So send the guy or the gal you have been eyeing a “Good morning early bird” or “Good evening night owl” message between those times. Or engage with them through instant message by saying something like, “Good morning, I wanted to check-in with you early to say Hello, that way you start your day off with a smile” (replace the Good morning with Good evening for messages to women – also change “that way you end your night with a smile”). Take the initiative if you are serious about finding love this year.

  • Post more activity pictures 

According to Match.com people engage more with pictures that show you being active, alive and adventurous. So whether it is hiking, surfing, walking outdoors, paddle boarding, skiing or sharing the infamous yoga pose – post some really great active shots where we can clearly see you are having fun (be sure they are not blurry pictures and that we can see your face).

  • Master the selfie

Master the art of taking a selfie and for pete’s sake keep your friends out of the picture. Who needs the competition or the confusion of whose profile is this anyway. Beside make your meet and greet about the two of you not your family and friends (at least not yet).

  • Positive words, will lead to positive results 

The words can’t, won’t and picky are used way to often in the dating world. I can not tell you how many profiles I have read that start off with negative information. Instead of the word can’t or won’t use the words – I’ll try or I’m open. Instead of telling everyone you meet you’re picky- use your dating time wisely, tell people what you want rather than what you don’t want. Ask for a dating referral if they themselves are not right for you. 

  • Have fun with rewriting your profile

It’s important that you put some effort into your profile but don’t make it to clinical or resemble a resume format. Guys this means you too, women don’t like blank profiles. Remember women fall in love with words or with actual conversation (the old saying women fall in love through their ears is a true statement).

Enjoy telling people about what they are in for when they meet you. For example these phrases, lead to more views and response.

  1. I love a good happy hour. Do you have a favorite place?
  2. I am always up for a good cocktail and better apps (appetizers).
  3. I love a good lunch adventure, let’s find a new spot to meet.
  4. I am really into creating eventful fun…let’s make some fun memories together.

For more dating advice or coaching efforts please contact me personally, I would love to help you spice up your dating life with better results.

Jessie Kay 

855-664-4588 

or email me personally at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

 

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Who’s your Valentine?

To celebrate Valentine’s Day, the usual dinner-and box of chocolate and or flowers will certainly get the job done this year. But this is your chance to prove your love and show your Valentine just how special they are. In other words, Valentine’s Day calls for something truly elevated, step up your game! 

To help you out, we rounded up some inventive, unforgettable, heart-throbbing date ideas in the Los Angeles area (could apply in other area’s, google idea for similar places to go).

Escape Room 

Looking for a fun and unique activity for your Valentine’s day date? Escape Room LA is a one-of-a-kind interactive adventure that everyone will love! There’s an Escape Room in LA, clues are tricky, but no special skills or knowledge is required. It’s a Fun Date Night! I’ve done it. 

Shopping spree anyone?   

Find fun, unique stores, stores that may tell a story —shop locally, I love this fun store on Melrose Ave www.newprofanity.com – funny place to take a date – deep discussions required. Keep strolling together down Melrose Ave or a nice walk through Laguna Beach local shops, if you dare hit the malls. Decide on a set amount of money. You each have 30 minutes to buy something for each other. Whomever picks the best gift wins. 

Dance to jazz like it’s the Roaring Twenties 

Hit up a local hot Jazz club, make a ’20s-themed evening out of it, time for fun dress up. Gentleman get the chance to bust out your three-piece suits and swanky hats. Ladies get to break out their glitter flapper dresses, make a night of it. Order old fashion drinks and cuddle up to a great night of music and fun. www.catalinajazzclub.com

Make your own art and sip 

 www.paintandsipstudiola.com Here you bring your own wine—or beverage of choice—and make your most valiant effort at painting a predetermined piece. Though every piece of art is ostensibly based off the same initial artwork, the results are generally wildly different, and quite entertaining.This a great opportunity for you to chat, laugh and get creative with your Valentine’s Day Date.

Dinner at the movies 

All around the country, you’ll find more and more movie theaters (like IPIC Theater) that offer the whole package: Drinks, dinner, and, of course, a movie. Talk about getting comfy :-). www.ipictheaters.com/#/home/

Still looking for love? Please JOIN OUR EXCLUSIVE SINGLES NETWORK. Let us see who’s looking for you. www.therealmatchmaker.com/contact-us/

 

Love, Jessie 

855-664-4588 

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It’s her time to fall in Love!

 LA Matchmaking service 

REAL CLIENT LOOKING FOR “REAL LOVE”

  • She is described as: Happy, fun, loving, healthy, grateful, successful, vibrant
  • She lives by her “Golden Rules”: Be open-minded, tolerant, non-judgmental, charitable, patient
  • Best quality: Laughs easily
  • Bucket-list destinations: Nantucket, Hamptons, Nova Scotia, Paris, Greece, Austria, Switzerland
  • Last book She read: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
  • Go to Netflix’s: Game of Thrones, Homeland, Shameless, Damnation, Westworld
  • Favorite comedy of all time: There’s Something About Mary
  • Best advise: “Don’t take any wooden nickels”
  • Food indulgence: Fine chocolate ~ “so good”
  • Favorite cocktail: Lemon drop
  • Favorite meal: Steak dinner
  • Open to dating Men ages: 33-52
  • Relationship Goals: “I want to fall in love and have a family”
  • Qualities She is looking for in a Man: Loving, trustworthy, happy, successful, financially stable, clever, intelligent, thoughtful, sporty, good business sense, good listener and enthusiastic (hopefully about finding love).

Sounds like someone you would like to meet ~ “She” is looking for Serious Suitors Only

Inquire within at Jessie@therealmatchmaker.com

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Dating in 2016

DATING 2016

If you didn’t lock down a life partner around 2007, you’ve probably experienced how laughably difficult dating is for SINGLE professionals in our big, yet ever-so-small cities.

It seems nobody wants to settle down. And those who do can be disgruntled and disappointed in the end.

6 reasons why it’s more difficult than ever on the single scene — especially if you’re looking for a relationship.

Social Media:

We don’t have to tell you that social media has been both a blessing and a curse for Singles.

Tinder etc:

Swiping right and left method. Decisions made on Picture alone… “What is happening to us?”
***Do you find yourself bragging about your Tinder account but yet you are still single… Why? I hear this often….

Increased competition:

Have you looked in the mirror- there are HOT girls and HOT guys everywhere… I mean everywhere…. HOW DO YOU MEASURE UP?

Looking for Mr/Ms Perfect- Are you Perfect?:

Expectations to HIGH? Are we all too focused on the “Pic” and not the person?

The Scene:

There’s so much everywhere going on all the time it makes it hard to know where, when and how.

Romance gone:

When the Romance is gone those of us with similar high hopes of a serendipitous courtship are usually disappointed.

There is a SECRET to getting better results…Better Results start with a Better You!

Could you be “A BETTER YOU”?

 

For personalized dating tips, call Jessie at 855-664-4588 

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