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Be Good To Yourself First.

 

I told him, “Offer me something I cannot find in myself.” #lovequotes

Nowadays, so much of social influences lead us or pressure us to be obsessed with the materialism of relationships.
We fuel the misconceptions of relationships and it is so crazy how at times we don’t even realize we are doing this.

The quote above opened discouraging thoughts in my mind about settling and compromising. It reminded me, that I am significant. I am one of a kind. And that I am alive. 💪🏽Be good to yourself first.

***It’s your job to find people who focus on finding love through positive possibilities. A matchmaker is a “Positive Outlet” for finding love and learning how to be “Your Personal Best” in the dating world (you have to be ready for positive changes).

Jessie 855-664-4588 

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Your Love Life Is Not Always Like A Maze

 

 

I think, based on optimism, that life is a journey with U-turns curves and pot holes rather than a just a maze of lines. A maze seems trite or a little simple to me. At least for my life.

It never ceases to amaze me how some people stroll through life, always the same mood, always happy on the outside anyway and seemingly settled (so they think). I’ve mentioned this here because there are some strategies I’ve used to jump some of life’s tough hurdles. Hurdles that may “Hold Me Back”.

Rid your life of negative destructive or uncomfortable people. They are a good portion of the population. Believe it!😳
Expect 50% to be eliminated in your mind. Means bumping into them at shops, talk for a maximum of 30 seconds to be polite and – go! You eliminate any chance of getting upset. That includes your social media friends too.

🚘 If you can afford to move. Or opt to work from home…less stress. No parking metres, calm lifestyle, friendly people in smaller towns. And you are out of the rat race.

Release your Superwoman or Superman. Stop expecting too much of yourself. Organize your life so you don’t get caught up in things that should have been done. Rushing to do them causes stress. Delegate…..if you have to or plan better.

🙏🏼Cherish what you have – not what you do not have. Life is full of beautiful imperfections…channel your emotions to others. Channel what you would have channelled to loved ones – had you had the chance. 💫

❤️ Find “Real Love” with “Real people who want love, the ones open to possibilities” and connect with your Spiritual peace from within, whatever that is for you. 😬

Call Jessie for Coaching Tips – “Get the Partner you’re looking for” 

Jessie 855-664-4588

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Break-Up…Now What?

Reading about break-ups on a matchmaker blog may seem a bit ironic because we’re here to get people into relationships, not OUT of them. Well, the fact is that most of us have suffered a break up or two in our lives. Going through the end of a relationship can be devastating.

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Then the time comes a time when the dust begins to settle and the possibility of finding a new match doesn’t seem as scary as say, polar bearing  So what’s the next step after a break-up?

The most important step before you get serious about dating again is to put on the oxygen mask. That means that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. If you are still resentful about your ex, feeling insecure about your ability to attract a partner, have a difficult time trusting, etc., take the steps to move past your anger and doubt.  Beyond reading self-help books and therapy, there are things you can do to distract yourself from the pain of being single again and re-discover a wiser and more fulfilled version of yourself. Here are a few to get you excited about finding love (and you will!):

Be a Good Samaritan-Volunteering is a wonderful outlet because helping others helps to build your sense of self-value and enables you to open your heart.  Also, you may meet someone who is just as passionate about helping others-and that is hot. 

Learn Something New-If you’ve always wished you learned to tango, brushed up on your Spanish, or that you were a better cook, then now is the time to do it. Not only will you fill up the space you once spent with your partner, your confidence will soar and you’ll cross an item off your bucket list. Again, you open yourself to potentially meeting other quality singles by expanding your social life.

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Improve your surroundings-Give your bedroom a sexy makeover (luxurious sheets, anyone?), de-clutter and get organized (chuck that ugly painting your ex loved!), re-arrange your furniture, or plant a garden.  Investing inyour environment eases loneliness and motivates you to share it with someone new.

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Refresh your wardrobe-You are going to need some new date clothes for sure, and it’s likely your look has gotten a little stale or styles have changed since your last rodeo. For the love of God, get rid of your old underwear and socks (bras too, ladies!), and spoil yourself with new ones that you won’t mind showing off. And yes, there is such a thing as sexy socks.

 

Everyone is different when it comes to finding the best way to meet singles, and depending on your circumstances, things may have changed dramatically on the dating scene since you were last single. Online dating wasn’t around 20 years ago! You may be a few years out of college and scoping out hotties at a toga party or a bar crawl isn’t exactly your speed these days. The thing is, there are smarter ways to find your match than online dating, or standing around awkwardly at a bar. You can try a fun Single’s Partyor have an expert matchmaker go to work finding matches that are chosen  just for you.

You’ve read this far and you should be feeling stoked about who will be lucky enough to benefit from your mad cooking skills and play footsie with those sexy socks-but please, take them off before you hit those fancy new sheets! Go fill out your free, confidential Real Matchmaker Single Social Network Profile now to jump start your new and improved love life!

 

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Who Doesn’t Want to Be More Charismatic?

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If you are single and in the Los Angeles or San Francisco area then you know how unbelievably difficult it is to meet quality singles… Now add quality singles with charisma. Of course it looks so easy when we see that cool, confident person walk in the room. I know most of us wish we had mesmerizing charismatic effects on the opposite sex, like George Clooney, Brad Pitt, Bill Clinton, Madonna, Sofia Vergara and the Charlize Theron’s of the world (it would make dating a heck of a lot easier). Well believe it or not, these famous sexy, charismatic people where not always irresistible sex symbols. They, just like me and you, had to work at being magnetic.

What makes you attractive to the opposite sex even if you’re not the best looking person? What moves people to take notice of you wherever you are? What invisible “mojo magic” can mesmerize, seduce, motivate and persuade other attractive singles to notice you. It’s charisma, non the less; its so powerful yet can’t be seen or even touched but we all know when someone has it.

As Expert Matchmakers at The Real Matchmaker in Los Angeles and San Francisco, we have a series of question we ask our clients in order to find out their charisma level:

  1. In most situations are you seen as a leader?
  2. Do you always find it easy to make new friends or catch someone’s eye?
  3. Is it easy for you to make the 1st move?
  4. Are you often the center of attention?
  5. Do people generally consider you successful and attractive?
  6. Are you told you have a great sense of humor and know how to make people laugh?

If you can honestly answer Yes to all of these questions then you are here by deemed as a “high level charismatic person”. And on the other hand if you answered most of these questions with a No,  then here are some dating tips towards making your charisma irresistible.

  1. Engage with more expression, humor and with inflection in your voice. Being predictable is never sexy.
  2. Create a presence or make an impact when you enter a room. Charisma is confidence, high energy and creative, never cocky or overly aggressive.
  3. Its always good to keep a little mystery about yourself. Its never the loudest most obnoxious person in the room that is envied.
  4. Learn to tell stories better by painting pictures in a listeners mind. Don’t just tell your story, create an experience with descriptive language.
  5. Dare to have your own unique style. Most charismatic people are not copycats.
  6. As a rule of thumb, by honestly making people feel good about themselves will in return make them feel good about you.

Don’t let trying to be charismatic paralyze you, its suppose to help you discover who you really could be. Visit therealmatchmaker.com to sign up for a sizzling Single to Mingle event or an Attractive Singles Party where you can meet other professional singles and dazzle them with your charisma!

 

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