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It’s his time for Love!


  • He is described as: Self-aware, playful, sarcastic, healthy, positive, driven, creative, roll with the punches kind of guy
  • He lives by his “Golden Rules”: Be a great catch and you will find a great catch. Be good to others. Be a good communicator. Chew with your mouth closed.
  • Best quality: Great story teller
  • Bucket-list goals: Meet CSUN’s 1991 Scholar-Athlete of the year. Getting better at my Ping-Pong game. Skydiving, long road trip all over the U.S.
  • His hobbies: Soccer, beach-life, theatre, dance, great films (old films), photography galleries, museums, hiking, weekend getaways, engaging talk, comedy shows of any kind, time with family & friends. My nerdy side loves chess.
  • Guilty Pleasure: SYTYCD (So You Think You Can Dance)
  • Go to Netflix’s: Shameless, GOT, Billions, The Handmaid’s Tale, Breaking Bad, Six Feet Under
  • Funniest accomplishment: I made Larry David chuckle… True story.
  • Favorite movies: Braveheart, The Big Sick, American History, Slumdog Millionaire, Trainspotting, Good Fellas, Sling Blade
  • Best advise: “Just love and have the courage to be yourself”
  • Food indulgence: Garden of Eatin’ Red Hot Blues (it’s addictive)
  • Vacation destination ideas: Italy, Greece, Spain, Iceland, New Zealand…anything tropical will do.
  • Favorite meal to make: Mouth watering Seared Ahi Tuna with fresh mango and avocado topping.
  • Open to dating Women ages: 32-40
  • Relationship Goals: Committed relationship, marriage and family.
  • Qualities He is looking for in a Woman: Laughs easy, warm-hearted, conscious, likes to dress up and dress down, healthy, active, smart, sense of humor, knows how to laugh at herself, good to strangers (service people included).



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It’s her time to fall in Love!

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  • She is described as: Happy, fun, loving, healthy, grateful, successful, vibrant
  • She lives by her “Golden Rules”: Be open-minded, tolerant, non-judgmental, charitable, patient
  • Best quality: Laughs easily
  • Bucket-list destinations: Nantucket, Hamptons, Nova Scotia, Paris, Greece, Austria, Switzerland
  • Last book She read: 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
  • Go to Netflix’s: Game of Thrones, Homeland, Shameless, Damnation, Westworld
  • Favorite comedy of all time: There’s Something About Mary
  • Best advise: “Don’t take any wooden nickels”
  • Food indulgence: Fine chocolate ~ “so good”
  • Favorite cocktail: Lemon drop
  • Favorite meal: Steak dinner
  • Open to dating Men ages: 33-52
  • Relationship Goals: “I want to fall in love and have a family”
  • Qualities She is looking for in a Man: Loving, trustworthy, happy, successful, financially stable, clever, intelligent, thoughtful, sporty, good business sense, good listener and enthusiastic (hopefully about finding love).

Sounds like someone you would like to meet ~ “She” is looking for Serious Suitors Only

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Dating in 2016


If you didn’t lock down a life partner around 2007, you’ve probably experienced how laughably difficult dating is for SINGLE professionals in our big, yet ever-so-small cities.

It seems nobody wants to settle down. And those who do can be disgruntled and disappointed in the end.

6 reasons why it’s more difficult than ever on the single scene — especially if you’re looking for a relationship.

Social Media:

We don’t have to tell you that social media has been both a blessing and a curse for Singles.

Tinder etc:

Swiping right and left method. Decisions made on Picture alone… “What is happening to us?”
***Do you find yourself bragging about your Tinder account but yet you are still single… Why? I hear this often….

Increased competition:

Have you looked in the mirror- there are HOT girls and HOT guys everywhere… I mean everywhere…. HOW DO YOU MEASURE UP?

Looking for Mr/Ms Perfect- Are you Perfect?:

Expectations to HIGH? Are we all too focused on the “Pic” and not the person?

The Scene:

There’s so much everywhere going on all the time it makes it hard to know where, when and how.

Romance gone:

When the Romance is gone those of us with similar high hopes of a serendipitous courtship are usually disappointed.

There is a SECRET to getting better results…Better Results start with a Better You!

Could you be “A BETTER YOU”?


For personalized dating tips, call Jessie at 855-664-4588 

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Are you always looking for the RIGHT ONE?


I have found that a lot of single people are still single not because they haven’t found “the right one.” The right ones are all over the place. They are single because of the stories they tell themselves about relationships. Their stories tend to center on why things can’t work rather than why they can. The trick to going from a single person to a couple isn’t about finding the right one at all. It’s about reminding yourself that the stories you tell yourself aren’t real.
To become a couple you have to risk feeling fear and disappointment. You have to risk the hurt or getting your heart broken. You have already tried to navigate around those things by treating dating like you’re interviewing someone for a job, haven’t you? Strangely enough even when the person passed the interview you still found reasons that they weren’t right for you. Dating, relationships, marriage is all emotionally risky. Get used to it. Do not fear it. Instead, remember that risk is the most exciting part of any new venture. Only when you transcend your fears, your outdated beliefs and your stories do you get to experience something new and amazing.

Jessie Kay

Expert Matchmaker 19 year

Always in love with love


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You’re right. Dating in LA can be difficult. And to some, it even sucks. Which is why we got professional dating coach (!!!) Laurel House to walk us through why dating here is different from anywhere else in the world, so we all at least know what we’re up against.

Everyone is always “on”

Runyon Canyon is supposed to be the kind of relaxed type of place where people should have their guard down, but instead everyone is in full hair and makeup, and unnecessarily sexy athletic wear, JUST IN CASE.

Age is truly just a number

Thanks to age-confusing plastic surgery and makeup, it’s not uncommon to go from dating someone who could be your parent to someone who could be your kid.

Is it a date, interview, reality show taping, or networking opportunity?

On the rare occasion that you are actually asked out in person, the purpose isn’t always clear. Do they want to hire you or screw you? Or both? Or… neither?

You’ll date someone who’s an entrepreneur, producer, writer, actor, director, or model

Aka someone who’s under- or unemployed. Or both.

Accidentally meeting someone on the street or in passing is rare

Lots of us work from home, leaving little time for in-person social interactions. And for those of us who have real “jobs,” unlike in cities where public transportation is the norm, we sequester ourselves in our cars, only to deposit ourselves at the office. Bumping into that person you were flirting with last night? Not gonna happen.

Each town has its own type

Santa Monica, Venice, Hollywood, West Hollywood, Hermosa, Silver Lake, Beverly Hills, Pasadena, Sherman Oaks, or Downtown… more than being a driving distance apart, each area is an attitude apart, too. From hipster to highfalutin, beach bum to buttoned-up, where a person resides can say a lot about their personality, profession… and tendency to be on time.

Divorced with kids? That’s a turn… on?

In LA, having a kid can be even more of a turn on: it shows that you know how to be responsible, nurture, and care for another. And in a town filled with flakes, that’s seriously sexy.

Absolutely everyone is online

Because of the urban sprawl, workaholic hours, and number of work-from-home entrepreneurs/actors/writers/directors/models, online dating long ago shed itself of any stigma. Sometimes it feels like another form of social media as you are matched up with your neighbor, co-worker, best friend, best friend’s ex, and even your own ex. Awkward? Sure. Part of the deal? Yup.

“Do I know you?” “Oh. Sorry.”

You have to be careful who you smile at, wave to, or approach and ask “do I know you?” Chances are high that you know them from either seeing them on the big screen, little screen, or online dating scene, which is particularly unfortunate if you’ve repeatedly ignored or turned them down.

There is literally someone more beautiful and richer (or they claim to be) at the next table

You will never be the prettiest, richest, most successful, or most famous person in LA (sorry) — there will always be someone better than you in all superficial departments, which makes dating a constant merry-go-round if you’re just in it to have fun or be arm candy. It’s way too easy for anyone to turn their head to the left or right, and see something more tempting.

Expectations are exceedingly high, thanks to a few truly wealthy guys

Sorry dudes, once a lady’s been treated to the tasting menu at Melisse or box seats at the Hollywood Bowl, happy hour drinks seem a bit… dismal.

But just because a dude pulls up in a Porsche, it doesn’t mean he can pay his rent

And just because he drives a “regular” car, it doesn’t mean he’s barely getting by. Tons of wealthy dudes have low-profile cars specifically to find out whether they’re dating a gold digger.

Great article by Lauren House — Thank you!
Jessie the Matchmaker 
Expert Matchmaker 18+ years 
“Date Smarter Not Harder” 
1 855-664-4588
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Get UN-SINGLE for 2015

It’s about two weeks into 2015 and amongst all the resolutions, you will have thought about your relationship situation, especially if it’s non-existent. If you felt lost, frazzled and exhausted about your dating life in 2014, then now is the time to get CLEAR VISION about your dating life in 2015.
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What is it you are after? Long term relationship? Marriage? Or just dating?  Are you really looking for a serious relationship?  Decide on what it is you are after before you set foot on a date or make decisions about joining a matchmaker or an online dating site.  If you are asked about what you are looking for, express a clear vision and be honest. Be truthful to yourself and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want.
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So you’ve decided that 2015 is the year to get UN-SINGLE.  Are you asking for too much? Are you really setting realistic goals? Are you being so picky that now you are the one standing in your own way?  Most singles are busy and may or may not have a plan, nevertheless stick to a plan. Listen it’s all well and good if you are leaving it to fate or the universe but seriously, your Mr. or Ms. Right will not come knocking on your door.  So it’s your choice to decide to try a little bit of everything (online dating, hitting the bars, matchmaking, singles events, makeover or taking up a new hobby) then make a plan and start the process.  It will require a bit of persistence, everybody knows that online dating can be a chore at times but nothing worthwhile comes easy.  Keep your options open as you never know where and when a great person may show up.
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Saying you want someone kind, happy and giving is a good start but it doesn’t say much else about the qualities you want. A good place to start is to look at yourself and define the kind of characteristics you have with a written list.  What is so great about you?  A relationship works best if you have similar qualities. So if you are ambitious, funny, well-dressed, sporty, attractive, educated then the chances are, you will want someone similar.  Of course, there will be times when you meet someone ambitious, funny and well educated but they turn out to be obsessed with work, critical and your sense of humor doesn’t match up.  Your ‘type’ may need to be refined after each date. Its always a good idea to take mental notes or keep a log so you’re making positive progress after each date. Please remember, having a very stringent list can lead to nothing good!
Get a clear vision on your lifestyle choicesUnknown
Your lifestyle choices can play a big part in stopping you from meeting new attractive singles. If you work long hours, take a step back and allow yourself free time for your hobbies, interests, friends, singles events and dating. Hanging around with your married friends and their children will leave you on the shelf just gathering dust and with most things on a shelf there is an expiration date. Pay special attention to where you live and your surroundings. Are you near and around the types of people you would like to meet and pursue? You get the picture right? You have to make changes to see the positive results and open yourself up to new and better opportunities to meet new attractive singles.
At THE REAL MATCHMAKER, our plan is to help people get a CLEAR VISION on they’re dating lives and get UN-SINGLE. We are here to offer support, love and encouragement all along the way.  GET UN-SINGLE in 2015!
Jessie the Matchmaker 
855-664-4588 (4LUV) 
Expert Matchmaker for 18+ years 
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She said “YES” to a 2nd Date… Now What Guys?



You made it through the first date with a woman you really like.  She also gave you a kiss at the end of the night and accepted your request for a second date. You’re the Man! Now, use this time wisely and figure out if you really have chemistry together. It can be hard to figure out chemistry on a first date because its not always based on physical attraction alone. On your second date, do something fun like a activity or a walk to a cozy restaurant where you can share food.  This will be a more comfortable outing and give you both a chance to share more of your true personalities towards each other. Its time to get playful guys!

Use your second date to help you get to know if she likes your personality, your looks and your presence.  Its not all about her guys, its also your time to take mental notes and see if she is a good match for you.


  •  If you’re an outdoorsy guy, ask her on a date to do something like fishing or hiking, biking, then have a nice picnic together. That way you will know if she shares your passions and interest.
  • If you’re a hands on guy with an adventurous side think about trying a pottery classes (you remember the sexy scene in Ghost), cooking classes, gun range, golf range, and painting classes are all fun to do together. These kind of activities will help you create good memories with your date and you will discover if you both play well together.

By doing this you will learn more about her, it will differ based on what activity you choose for your second date.  I can tell you one thing though, you will still learn much more about your date by doing an activity then just confined to generic dinner date conversation.  Sky is the limit when you push the envelope and differentiate yourself from other dates she has been on in her past.

Until next time, good luck!

Always in love with love, 



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Single Dad’s, Good To Date- Happy Father’s Day!

Very often, people – especially if they don’t have kids of their own – are apprehensive about dating single parents. Dating a parent, by all outward appearances, looks like a situation that is automatically more complicated, which means more likely for it to not work out, and when it inevitably doesn’t work out, there are potentially a greater number of people involved who could get hurt. Harsh but true.

Dating a single parent is can be the greatest thing ever, and I feel bad that so many of you might be missing out. I know you’re inclined not to believe me right now. Here are 10 good reasons why… Bam!


1) Birth control: They take it seriously, they understand that having a child is a Huge responsibility.

Guess who never forgets to use condoms?

2) They’re less likely to rush into things; they take the time to get to know you before introducing you to his kids.

By taking your time to get to know him, you will be creating this a satisfying respect and likeness first.  A combination of “can’t get enough of each other” and “not having infinite time to spend together” equals “always wanting more”. Which is hot and romantic.

3) Their bags, home and car are like survival kits– everything except the kitchen seat.

There is nothing he doesn’t have, he comes first aid ready.

4) They take there time and have been known to be really good in the bed

You’re just infinitely more aware of yourself, and far less self-conscious. There is no way, no matter the specifics of how you like to get down, that that doesn’t result in some next-level sex action.

5) They know what makes a relationship work and they are not afraid to go for it

Just having a child at all teaches you, “holy crap, everything about human connections and interactions and how to be healthy, generous but also self-preserving, committed and flexible”.

6) They have excellent boundaries and respect your boundaries

Establishing good boundaries with others and your kids can be tricky, although single dads seem to love being cautious with your time and feelings.

7) Contrary to myths, single dads are not shopping for a new mom for their kids

Maybe we will fall gloriously in love, and you will become part of my family, and end up having a meaningful relationship with his child, and even become friends with his ex wife and we’ll all have this big modern family with lots of people engaging in highly evolved relationships and enjoying all the growth and joy that comes from that.

8) They understand selflessness and sharing 

I mean, that doesn’t mean every single parent you date is going to be selfless with you, but chances are, they are at least capable of it.

9) They’re more aware of what they want and who they want to be 

Single parents tend to be really good at knowing what they want, but not being too stubbornly attached to getting exactly that.

10) They have more structure and empathy 

Single Dads are on a schedule and they have to deal with a lot more bumps, bruises and hiccups.


So next time a single Dad asks you out make sure you celebrate his very dateable qualities.


To all the Dad! Happy Fathers Day!

Always in love with love,


Experienced Matchmaker for 18 years


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She Says “I am Just Looking To Make New Friends”

Are you getting friend zoned when you go out? More and more men are complaining about women at organized singles events, which are meant for meeting someone to date. Men have told me that lately when they have approached single women at these events, they get responses like “I am only here to make friends.” Well, I am going to give it to you straight guys! In some fashion she is right, she is there to make friends, when it comes to YOU. That doesn’t mean she isn’t looking for a relationship or a new dating experience…I mean she is at a singles event after all.

This is just a nice way of saying she isn’t interested. As a Dating Coach I always encourage women to be honest when they are not interested in a guy, but sometimes telling someone to their face that “your just not my type” isn’t always easy to say.

By know means does this mean there is something wrong with you. She is just not the one, so move on to a woman who is looking for a relationship…with a guy like you.

Always in love with love! 


]Expert Matchmaker with 18 years of experience


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