Celebrate the New Year and Make New Connections!

To Celebrate the New Year and New Connections, We’re Hosting The Following Events: (see below)
An Intimate Affair…

This will be a fun event to start the New Year off right! Meet 8-10 men and 8-10 women at the trendy, intimate Steingarten! All attendees will be HAND-SELECTED!
It will be a group of quality, attractive singles in your age range sharing conversation around the fire over appetizers.
The guys will rotate so that everyone gets to know each other…not your typical speed dating event, more organic and intimate.

Sunday, January 5, 2014 @ 2:00 PM-4:00 PM (Ages 50-65 Only)

5:00 PM-7:00 PM (Ages 34-48 Only)
Steingarten LA
10543 West Pico Boulevard
Los Angeles, CA 90064

Cost: $35
Appetizers are included in the price of your ticket.
Parking: $2 Parking Lot at the intersection of W. Pico Blvd and Prosser Ave (by the paint store)

Contact Jessie if you’d like to come to a more private, Intimate Affair…
Limited seating, must RSVP
619 602 9758

2014 Singles Networking Party LA


It’s Hump Day! RMM is partnering up with Carson House for an amazing Singles Social Networking event to remember! This event is only $5 and offers business networking opportunities and single social connections all in one!  Early birds will have the chance to sample some of Carson House’s delicious appetizers as well.

Join us for a rewarding night where quality single professionals connect over music, drinks, appetizers, and stimulating conversation at the beautiful Carson House. All ages welcome. Don’t forget your business cards–for work AND dating!

Wednesday, January 15, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM

Carson House
8635 Wilshire Blvd
Beverly Hills, CA 90211

Cost: $5
This will be a packed event so MUST RSVP by contacting Jessie.
619 602 9758

Attractive Singles Intimate Mixer for Ages 50-65


Meet 10-15 men and 10-15 women all in one night!
It will be a group of hand-selected, attractive singles in your age range mingling over appetizers and drinks.
There will be music, ice-breaker games, and more so that everyone gets to know everyone.

Sunday, January 19, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM
Mike’s Place
Woodland Hills, CA

Cost: $25
Appetizers and 2 drinks are included in the price of your ticket.

Contact Jessie if you want to come and start your New Year off right!
619 602 9758

2014 Singles Networking Party OC


RMM is partnering up with Elephant Bar for an amazing Singles Social Networking event to remember! This is a free event and offers business networking opportunities and single social connections all in one! Plus it’s Happy Hour all night!

Join us for a rewarding night where quality single professionals connect over a fabulous Happy Hour Menu and stimulating conversation at the fun, vibrant Elephant Bar. All ages welcome. Don’t forget your business cards–for work AND dating!

Monday, January 20, 2014 @ 6:00 PM-9:00 PM

Elephant Bar
14346 Culver Drive
Irvine, CA 92604

This will be a packed event so MUST RSVP by contacting Jessie.
619 602 9758

Stay Tuned….More Singles Events to Come!

Your 2014 Resolutions for Romance!

Blink your eyes and it will be here…2014 is going to be a great year for you and it’s time to start thinking of those New Years resolutions ! Our matchmakers have compiled a list of tried and true ways to find your path to a healthy and loving relationship, while having a lot of fun along the way! NYE

Ditch the zero to get with the hero. You’re on the dating merry-go-round, but things aren’t so merry….that just means you’re running in circles never getting to the next level with the person you’ve been dating! If you’ve hit a stalemate (no pun intended!) with someone that you know in your heart isn’t right for you, or have found yourself waiting until that “perfect match” is ready to commit to a relationship, it’s time to move on. If it’s meant to be, it will happen regardless if you make the choice to meet other people. It will be a welcome and fun distraction from the guilt and/or frustration of your current situation. You won’t know how good you can have it until you get out there and see for yourself!

You have to have a life worth sharing before you can share it with someone else If you feel like you need to improve your finances or body image in order to be more desirable to the kind of person you want to be in a relationship with, start taking action. Taking baby steps toward your ideal lifestyle will keep you inspired and confident which are highly attractive qualities . Before you know it, you WILL begin attracting people who are more ideal for your long-term relations hip goals .

Like attracts like; are you looking for a rugged outdoorsman, yet the thought of camping makes you cringe? You find yourself drawn to a classy and worldly woman, but you feel most comfortable in shorts and a ball cap when you go to dinner? It’s time to get honest about how to attract your potential mate or reevaluate what it is about specific characteristics that you actually are attracted to. A carbon copy of you would make things less exciting, and it’s important that you will be able to integrate into each other’s lives based on your lifestyles and backgrounds.

Get out from behind your computer. Online dating de-humanizes your search. There is nothing more telling than live real-time communication to determine if someone is a good fit. It’s easy to lose site of what is really important in a relationship and that is the way you actually FEEL when you are with someone! Dating is not like channel flipping, so if you come across someone that you feel has your top three criteria regarding children, faith, income, etc.—reach out and ask for a concrete face-to-face meeting. People who have a positive mind set and are serious about getting in a relationship will be relieved to cut to the chase and meet up in person-in a public place, of course!

Hire a matchmaker! Take the guess work out of your dating life. When you are setup by The Real Matchmaker, it’s a easy and fun. No more scrolling through profiles, coordinating your schedules or picking out a local hotspot. We do all the work for you! You will receive invaluable insight about your behaviors and your matchmaker will share the perspective from your date. You always know where you stand with your matches through prompt follow up by your own personal matchmaker!

For more information contact Jessie in SoCal at 855-664-4588  or Anni in NorCal at 415-656-9494 

PRESS RELEASE: The Real Matchmaker Helps California Singles Find a “Honey for the Holidays”

PRESS RELEASE: The Real Matchmaker Helps California Singles Find a “Honey for the Holidays”

The Real Matchmaker, a personalized dating service based in California, is dedicated to helping professionals find love with unique local singles’ events and handpicked pairings. This season, the experienced dating coaches in Los Angeles and San Francisco are educating clients on how to manage often tricky holiday relationships.

Offering dating tips for men and women alike, the love and image consultants understand that many people desire a “Honey for the Holidays.” Glamourized as one of the more romantic times of the year, the holiday season is full of opportunities to meet professional singles and explore potential connections. This year, The Real Matchmaker hopes to give all of their clients the chance to have that magical kiss under the mistletoe.

The Real Matchmaker guides singles on everything from tips for a great first date to creative date ideas that incorporate local holiday events. For an organic way of meeting new people, the dating coaches suggest paying attention during Christmas shopping. Look for other patrons with similar tastes and start a conversation, or ask an interesting individual for their advice on which gift to choose.

Holiday dating for professional singles can be complicated, however. The Real Matchmaker advises against bringing someone to family events until the relationship has had time to grow. Instead, go ice-skating together or take a Christmas lights tour.

No matter the season, California singles can always find support from The Real Matchmaker’s date coaches and personal image consultants. From individually selected, one-on-one dates and interest-based events for singles to online dating profile tips and exclusive singles’ forums, The Real Matchmaker helps clients find compatible, exciting, and attractive connections.

Learn more or join The Real Matchmaker’s network by contacting the personal dating coaches at 855-664-4LUV or through their online form. For upcoming events, such as speed dating in Los Angeles on Dec. 8 and 14, contact a member of The Real Matchmaker’s team: Los Angeles and Orange County professionals are encouraged to contact Jessie Kay at jessie@therealmatchmaker.com, while interested individuals in San Francisco can reach Anni Powers at anni@therealmatchmaker.com.


About The Real Matchmaker

The Real Matchmaker is a date scouting agency serving Los Angeles, Orange County, and San Francisco. Its dating coaching and image consultation services help single professionals meet interesting and compatible individuals through handpicked matches and local singles’ events. The dating coaches offer date tips for a wide range of situations and customize the experience to the clients’ needs.


Jessie Kay

The Real Matchmaker




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No More Missed Connections!

Ever wonder what could have been with someone you shared a glance with? Have you spent hours wondering why that great catch you went out with never asked for a second date? Is it driving you crazy that the autogenerated match of your dreams from your online dating site still hasn’t written you, much less given you a wink? Just about every single person has been baffled trying to find the answers to these questions.Our expert matchmakers are happy to share some of the most common reasons the people we encounter don’t always initiate or follow up. More importantly, we’ll get you started on a fool-proof path to make the most of your connections!

The most frustrating scenario is when you meet someone, they ask for your number and then-radio silence. There are a multitude of reasons this happens, but it isn’t always that the person lost interest.

All of us have busy lives and have been guilty of putting that important phone call on the back burner so that we have uninterrupted time to chat and set up a date. Before you know it, 4 days have passed and we assume that the person is upset so we do them the favor of getting lost. Rule #1: Don’t assume anything! If you fear the other person has lost interest or is upset, give them the chance to speak for themselves . By making that call and apologizing for the delay you may get Brownie points for taking accountability and the other person may feel excited and relieved that you finally called. Worst case scenario you don’t get a second chance, but you can breathe easier knowing that you gave it a shot.Traditionally, men are the initiators when it comes to dating. We can sometimes lose sight of the fact that the brunt of the rejection falls upon men in the beginning stages of courting. Even the most confident men are going to fall victim to a little stage fright! That is why many men won’t strike up a conversation if they see you out in day to day life. The fear of rejection could be the reason that he didn’t write after he glanced at your online profile. I have had many men tell me that one of the reasons they didn’t initiate contact was because he thought the woman was too pretty to consider a date with him. That thought alone could break your heart! It is important as women that we send out signals that it is okay to approach us, so the next time you see a guy glancing your way, give him a warm hello-that goes for the real world and online. You will be surprised to find that you are asked out a lot more often.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have some third party perspective to your very own love life? Our matchmakers will not only personally scout your dates, we will simplify introductions through coordinating your schedules and choosing a fantastic and convenient meeting location and we are here for you after your dates too! You will gain invaluable insight from the people you meet and your matchmaker will give you thoughtful guidance as to how you can better position yourself for attracting the right partner. We take the guess work out of your dating life so that you have time to focus on more important things -like planning your second date!


Don’t leave your love life to chance! Get started on your path to love by contacting Jessie in Southern California or Anni in The San Francisco Bay Area at 855-664-4588 and fill out your free, confidential profile HERE

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Get a Honey for The Holidays!

It’s that special time of year again and the hustle and bustle that the holidays bring doesn’t mean that your love life needs to come to a halt. There are plenty of ways to ensure that you have someone to smooch under the mistletoe and The Real Matchmaker has a few gifts of their own to share to make your dating life merry and bright!
One reason that people have a hard time meeting people is because we’re too shy to strike up a conversation when we see someone we like. So don’t hesitate…you might just snag a great date! Conversation starters when you are out shopping are endless . If you see someone that catches your eye, strike up a conversation by asking for some advice. Buying wine for a party? Choosing a gift for mom? People love to help each other, so asking for a little guidance will make the other person feel special. Wrap it up (har har!) by saying “Wow, you have really great taste. I know a great wine bar near by if you’d like to grab a drink sometime!” couple-shopping_300You can even increase your chances of bumping into the kind of person you’d like to date by perusing stores that they would shop in. Guys, are you looking for a woman who is really feminine and classy? Go to the accessories and fragrance section of department stores. Any other time of year you might risk looking like a creeper, so take advantage!
The other thing that complicates dating during the holidays is that schedules can get hectic with travel to visit family, company Christmas parties, etc. These can be great for chatting up someone new, but what if you just started dating someone great and it’s too soon to tell if they’re relationship material.
When dating someone new around the holidays, avoid inviting them to a family get together or church service unless you have been out a few times and are ready to take things to the next level. The holidays can be a wonderful time to segue way into becoming an official item, but jumping the gun could make the other person uncomfortable and make for awkward conversations later when your friends and colleagues ask about that nice person you were dating-yikes!Christmas couple
 Instead go on a date that is fun and festive. Go ice skating and have a hot toddy afterward or grab some hot chocolate and go for a drive to look at Christmas lights. If things go well, these could turn into traditions that you will share for a lifetime.
When it comes to gift giving, be subtle. If you just started dating, being too extravagant could make your date feel awkward and you might regret it later if things fall through. Keep your ears open for ideas. If they have a favorite band, go to the webpage and buy some fan gear. Make a list (and check it twice-Oh!) If they mention a book they have been wanting to read, a wine they want to try, etc. Being thoughtful will get you major brownie points.
If you want to make sure you have a honey for the holidays, the time to start looking was, like, yesterday. The Real Matchmaker will set your search into high gear by scouting dates personally for you. The holidays are stressful enough, don’t let a lackluster love life make you feel like a Scrooge. Join our free, confidential Singles Social Network and start dating before the snow starts falling!
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Drop the “Too Cool” Mindset Already

“Too cool for school”,  Ben Stiller said it best in Zoolander: “You may think you’re too cool for school, but I got a news flash for you…you AREN’T.”  Often  applied with considerable sarcasm which  generally means a person who is deemed to have an inflated self-image. I think that most single people struggle with knowing how to approach and take advantage of every opportunity to meet new people.  As an Expert Matchmaker, I always encourage my clients (especially the single men) to engage with others in a relaxed and cool manner; all the while knowing the difference betUnknown-4ween coming across as cool and not conceited.  It is never easy if you’ve been out of the dating game for a while and you’re afraid of over compensating or trying to hard to impress; driving away potential friendships/dates. Dating and mingling with others takes time and persistence in order to find your mojo.

Here are 10 easy tips that will help you date and socialize smarter not harder.

  1. Remember to always walk into a room and share with everyone your best asset, “your smile”.  By nature we are all attracted to happy, high energy people.
  2. Posture is something people forget about. Practice walking and talking tall and with confident posture everywhere you go. For goodness sake put a pep in your step!!
  3. Think of yourself as a “9” on a scale of 1-10.  Tell yourself that you ARE attractive, interesting, funny and successful.
  4. Take the time to become a good listener and genuinely show interest in others, valuing their time and conversation.
  5. Learn to add into your conversation playful banter and light harmless teasing. Focus on showing others around you a good time.
  6. Appear a little hard to get, challenging, fun and confident by saying things like, “Now don’t get your hopes up, I’m not that easy to get a date with” or “Listen, I don’t care what everyone else is saying about you… I think you’re great.”
  7. Body language is important,  relax and make friendly eye contact (if your interested in someone, give them the 3 second gaze). Lean forward a little bit, when talking with someone (it shows confidence). Don’t cross your arms and keep your hands relaxed.
  8. Aside from body language, other elements of your appearance can affect how approachable you look. Dressing in clothing that is light/bright colors with textures that look soft, trendy and playful will help you look more approachable.
  9. Introduce yourself immediately to strangers at a social function – get the awkwardness out of the way immediately, and you’ll come across as cool and collected (always have 2 or 3 fun relatable stories you like to tell on the tip of your tongue).
  10. Once you have your introduction and conversation topics well prepared, don’t give yourself hours to get nervous – concentrate on something else to occupy your mind until it’s time to go out and socialize.  Don’t over-think, just follow the plan, stand up straight, make eye contact, smile and talk clearly about happy things.

Its now time to put your “coolness” into action, join a singles group, speed dating group, singles events or call a local Expert Matchmaker to help jump start your dating adventure . Remember the art of building confidence is taking risks and having the ability (and the guts) to do things that scares you. Don’t change what you are, just learn to be more confident in who you are.

Happy Dating! 


Expert Matchmaker for LA/OC

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Break-Up…Now What?

Reading about break-ups on a matchmaker blog may seem a bit ironic because we’re here to get people into relationships, not OUT of them. Well, the fact is that most of us have suffered a break up or two in our lives. Going through the end of a relationship can be devastating.







Then the time comes a time when the dust begins to settle and the possibility of finding a new match doesn’t seem as scary as say, polar bearing  So what’s the next step after a break-up?

The most important step before you get serious about dating again is to put on the oxygen mask. That means that you have to take care of yourself before you can take care of someone else. If you are still resentful about your ex, feeling insecure about your ability to attract a partner, have a difficult time trusting, etc., take the steps to move past your anger and doubt.  Beyond reading self-help books and therapy, there are things you can do to distract yourself from the pain of being single again and re-discover a wiser and more fulfilled version of yourself. Here are a few to get you excited about finding love (and you will!):

Be a Good Samaritan-Volunteering is a wonderful outlet because helping others helps to build your sense of self-value and enables you to open your heart.  Also, you may meet someone who is just as passionate about helping others-and that is hot. 

Learn Something New-If you’ve always wished you learned to tango, brushed up on your Spanish, or that you were a better cook, then now is the time to do it. Not only will you fill up the space you once spent with your partner, your confidence will soar and you’ll cross an item off your bucket list. Again, you open yourself to potentially meeting other quality singles by expanding your social life.






Improve your surroundings-Give your bedroom a sexy makeover (luxurious sheets, anyone?), de-clutter and get organized (chuck that ugly painting your ex loved!), re-arrange your furniture, or plant a garden.  Investing inyour environment eases loneliness and motivates you to share it with someone new.


Refresh your wardrobe-You are going to need some new date clothes for sure, and it’s likely your look has gotten a little stale or styles have changed since your last rodeo. For the love of God, get rid of your old underwear and socks (bras too, ladies!), and spoil yourself with new ones that you won’t mind showing off. And yes, there is such a thing as sexy socks.


Everyone is different when it comes to finding the best way to meet singles, and depending on your circumstances, things may have changed dramatically on the dating scene since you were last single. Online dating wasn’t around 20 years ago! You may be a few years out of college and scoping out hotties at a toga party or a bar crawl isn’t exactly your speed these days. The thing is, there are smarter ways to find your match than online dating, or standing around awkwardly at a bar. You can try a fun Single’s Partyor have an expert matchmaker go to work finding matches that are chosen  just for you.

You’ve read this far and you should be feeling stoked about who will be lucky enough to benefit from your mad cooking skills and play footsie with those sexy socks-but please, take them off before you hit those fancy new sheets! Go fill out your free, confidential Real Matchmaker Single Social Network Profile now to jump start your new and improved love life!


Jennifer, Glendale, CA

Hi Jessie,
Just wanted to let you know that the man you set me up on a date with back in March – Mark, we kept in touch all along but i wasnt sure he was my type…We began dating seriously not long ago and totally falling for each other. I am feeling like my prayers were answered- a true gentleman and worthy of my heart and my daughters too. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the date and introduction. It’s exciting, new, different, mature, safe spiritual,healthy and passionate. We go to church together and God definitely brought us together for a reason. Thank you so much…

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Break Patterns

Time for changeDo you find yourself always dating the wrong woman or the wrong man?  Then you likely have a dating pattern that you need to break.

Sometimes, because people come in different shapes and sizes, we are often tricked into thinking they are different from our previous relationships. In reality this is not always the case.  Ladies, you may be dating someone who is more quite and shy than the ultra-manly man you dated before, but he is still not connecting emotionally. Fella’s, maybe you tried to date a woman who was a teacher because you thought she would be sweet and nurturing than your high powered ex, but she still seems too not have time for you. The reason it seems like “they’re all the same” is because, subconsciously, you are picking the same types of people to date. So the problem starts with you and your choices that your making.

If you’re reading this and feel like you could be making the mistakes with your love life, than take out a pen. Make a list of your 5 past relationships (good or bad), then list the first 5 qualities you liked and disliked about them that pop into your head. As you’re writing your list, you will soon be able to see a pattern. If the pattern is you date women who are not nurturing, start ask qualifying questions as you are getting to know your potential partner. For instance, “I love to stay home and make a delicious meal with a glass of wine. Do you like to cook? Are you open to cooking together?” You could also try the playful approach. “I’m a little childlike, when I’m sick. Are you a good nurse?” Judge her responses to your questions to decide whether or not she will be the type of nurturing woman you desire.

Figuring out the mind of a man is a little more difficult. The easiest way to judge them is by their actions. If your pattern is dating men who are emotionally unavailable, be wary of men who make excuses for not showing more emotion or refuse to open up about their personal lives. It’s important to make sure you both are on the same page with your feelings and expectations. If he says ‘I could see myself with you,’ that doesn’t necessarily mean he wants to be with you. Relationships can be tricky. Yes, sometimes a man is confused about what he wants; but as a woman, how long do you wait around for him to figure it out? It’s a thin line between a man being confused and him stringing you along; make it your business to find out early on, which is which. Your feelings will thank you in the long run.

These are just two examples of possible bad dating patterns, but your pattern may be different. If you’re dating relationships aren’t working for you, challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone now. Attend singles events, make new friends and love yourself more. A dating coach is a great resource to help you identify and break dating patterns that are negatively impacting you’re dating life.


Happy Dating!


The Real Matchmaker LA



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Dating Mythbusters: Nice Guys Finish Last

We all have heard the saying “Nice Guys finish last.” Admittedly, I hate this saying.  If you are a Nice Guy, you don’t have to turn into a Bad Boy to get the woman of your dreams. “Oh Yeah?” you nice guys may be thinking to yourself, “Well then why is it that when I am polite, and chivalrous, and complimentary I always seem to get the shaft?”

Here’s what it is: “Nice Guys” are generally too accommodating. Nice Guys ask for permission too often and apologize when they think she might be having a thought of disapproval for the most trivial reasons. Nice guys don’t challenge or oppose… they do everything right! So WHY isn’t she taking the bait? Because you are using a carrot, not  cupcake.

boringcarrotThink about it: Carrots are good for us, but no one ever looks forward to lunch time because they have carrots waiting for them.  Carrots are predictable and they taste pretty bland. Not bad, but not good either. Now, a cupcake: It isn’t healthy, but damn does it sure taste as good as it looks. A cupcake is decadent, but just enough to satisfy your sweet tooth without making you sick.  In order to achieve balance, we have to eat more carrots than cupcakes. Too many carrots and we feel bored, deprived, and undernourished; too many cupcakes and we feel sick and unattractive all the time.

Now that I’m craving a cupcake, I’ll get on with my point. The carrot dangling Nice Guy doesn’t rock the boat. He doesn’t speak up to the waiter if his dish is all wrong, or he left it up to the woman to choose what to do on the date for the sake of ensuring you do something she likes. After a couple of dates, a strong woman will start to wonder if she’ll end up steamrolling him and being saddled with making all of the decisions, and that’s a turn-off. Women want to be with a man who she respects and believes is strong enough to make decisions and stand up for her when she needs him. In essence, Nice Guys don’t always lead with their backbone, and you have to have a strong one to grab the attention of an attractive, capable woman.
Without game playing, or trying too hard take control: Offer up a cupcake. Figuratively, of course. Although, women love cupcakes now is not the time to be so literal. For example,  if you disagree with a point she is making, offer your opposing view point instead of keeping it in (Proceed with caution, though) The truth will come out eventually anyway, and she’ll be pleased to see that you aren’t afraid to stand up for yourself and hold true to your values. Perhaps you are seated right next to a drafty door and she’s cold- ask if you can wait at the bar until another table is available or ask to shut the door. You have just shown her diplomacy, integrity and confidence.
Next, always have an action plan. Sometimes Nice Guys hesitate to initiate or plan for fear of being shot down or saying/choosing/doing the wrong thing.  Trust me when I speak on behalf of all women that we would rather you TRY than not put in any effort at all. We may tell you what we prefer, but it’s rare that we’ll get angry.  Don’t always feel the need to ask for her permission: “When can I take you out again?” as opposed to “Would it be okay for me to call you sometime so that maybe we can go out again later?”  When you follow up with her on that date, make sure you’re prepared with a couple of ideas and specific venues. This shows her that she is on your mind that you are a good planner. Bonus points if you choose something that relates to information she has already provided you with. You have just shown her that you are thoughtful and a good listener. hitch_l
Don’t be afraid to make a fool of yourself!   The reason Bad Boys are so attractive is because they don’t care what other people think about them. Remember Puck from The Real World San Francisco? He was a train wreck! But he was fun to watch because he was who he was and he didn’t care if you liked it or not. No apologies.  However, it’s that not caring about what other people think factor that also makes them terrible at relationships.  Nice Guys are usually quite interesting, although their interests may not be conventional. You collect spoons? WHO CARES? You play D&D? So what, it’s like Fantasy Football for bookworms. Your favorite movie is Milo and Otis? Yeah, I like animals, what gives?  When you are proud of who you are and you’re not embarrassed to show it, that’s hot.
If you’re a Nice Guy, you’re too good to stay single. For you ladies who are sick of being mistreated by Bad Boys, it’s time to drop the zero and get with a hero! Join our Single’s Social Network at therealmatchmaker.com/contactus

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